Are you perhaps subscribed to the ideas of sex-negative feminism that proclaim that a woman (any woman) can never give her real affirmative consent to having sex with a man unless greatly coerced by the pressure of the patriachal society and personally by her male partner?
Because I can see how such kind of a view can be reinforced by the female character saying “it would have ruined the mood if I told you to stop because it hurts”, for example.
Basically “it was rape because she wanted it to stop and thus it continued against her will and violated her starting from that very second”, right?