I mean, i honestly thought it wouldnt be that far in the spectrum. She taking the lead only means she would be the one putting his thing on her. Ive thought he would be only the passive one getting pleasure by being lead on. But he wanting her to put something on him might be a bit too much far from normal even for her.
They surely are not communicating properly even tho both alread open up to each other. Well, she did. But somehow hes ignoring what shes saying for his "pride".