Sensitive Boy - Ch. 77 - I Don't Want to Hide Anymore

[ShallowContrarian]

It's not a trope. It's something that is happens in many cultures. I don't know if you come from a place that being gay is accepted but its wildly not. Japan is still a conservative country that doesn't even have gay marriage legal. If you ever live or come from a conservative background then you would understand it. Yeah, its fiction but the whole point of the manga is writing what they know and what their society taught them.

This is something I HATE when other people say "why not ___" "I dislike because xyz" on non-anglo countries. I'm from the USA yet I know how other cultures are in how they treat the LGBT. We are not handled the best right now but its a lot better than other places. I highly suggest talking or do research in how thee LGBT in treated in Japan and non-anglo countries. Do I dislike it as a conflict in plots? Yes but the same time I understand why. In Japan, being gay is still seen as a "foreigner thing" + the classic "we don't mind you being gay but we would rather not see it" which is still common in the USA.

I get why you hate it but a lot of countries are not at the same level of acceptance as the anglo countries

I am not American or from the Anglosphere. I have worked with people who had to flee their countries out of fear from being put to death, who have lost boyfriends to executions. I am well aware of homophobia globally, just a jump skip and a hop away from me is Russia, which actively strips homosexuals of rights. I am aware Japan is much more socially conservative than western countries. Maybe I misunderstood Japan's situation specifically (I filed them mentally into the same kind of camp as Poland or the Balkans, very homophobic but not as truly awful as it can get in other places), but I at least wanna explain why I got annoyed at it here.

The reason why I got annoyed is specifically because the gay dude is the one initiating the breakup, that's why I mentioned "toggling off" as he should be well aware that this fixes nothing and just leads to Asahi dating another guy. This will not help him get back to normalcy, it means he just dumped the man he loves. They both should know this but it's never ever acknowledged (which is the part that I hate, the characters treat it as a simple thing but it's truly not). There are also ways to appear heterosexual without having to break up with someone you love, whether they have the grit to try that is another story, but breaking up is the last resort. I know lavender marriages exist, but are rare, and again I know people who's partners were executed because they wouldn't stop dating men even with their life on the line, love is that powerful of a motivator.

I expected there to be a breakup between them but I expected it to be because Asahi couldn't deal with society's homophobia.

 

[EulBassist]

Thanks for the chapter!

 

[tbogard]

At least be Honest with yourself and friends. Good outcome.

 

[Powerless]

I don't like where this is going bros..

 

[pink_rabbit]

I am not American or from the Anglosphere. I have worked with people who had to flee their countries out of fear from being put to death, who have lost boyfriends to executions. I am well aware of homophobia globally, just a jump skip and a hop away from me is Russia, which actively strips homosexuals of rights. I am aware Japan is much more socially conservative than western countries. Maybe I misunderstood Japan's situation specifically (I filed them mentally into the same kind of camp as Poland or the Balkans, very homophobic but not as truly awful as it can get in other places), but I at least wanna explain why I got annoyed at it here.

I think you did misunderstand about Japan then. They are fine if it's with non-Japanese people but very much against it if its their own people. I apologize for assuming that you do from the anglo-countries. The comments talking about tropes/cliches/nit-picking when it comes to Asian media often has me upset as it sometimes comes from not understanding the culture. Not all the time but most of the time. Still, I do apologize.

For you and the people you have worked with; I wish safety for the ones you have worked with. It's a far, far dream that will come true that LGBT people will be accepted one day.

The reason why I got annoyed is specifically because the gay dude is the one initiating the breakup, that's why I mentioned "toggling off" as he should be well aware that this fixes nothing and just leads to Asahi dating another guy. This will not help him get back to normalcy, it means he just dumped the man he loves. They both should know this but it's never ever acknowledged (which is the part that I hate, the characters treat it as a simple thing but it's truly not). There are also ways to appear heterosexual without having to break up with someone you love, whether they have the grit to try that is another story, but breaking up is the last resort. I know lavender marriages exist, but are rare, and again I know people who's partners were executed because they wouldn't stop dating men even with their life on the line, love is that powerful of a motivator.

I expected there to be a breakup between them but I expected it to be because Asahi couldn't deal with society's homophobia.

I don't think Asahi would date another man imo. He seems demi-romantic or heteroflexible. So yeah, he was the one who asked out him but, unfortunately, self sabotage is something that is very common in love and people just as it is IRL. You want to be with someone but mess it up on purpose due to being afraid of chances getting hurt.

 

[ShallowContrarian]

I think you did misunderstand about Japan then. They are fine if it's with non-Japanese people but very much against it if its their own people. I apologize for assuming that you do from the anglo-countries. The comments talking about tropes/cliches/nit-picking when it comes to Asian media often has me upset as it sometimes comes from not understanding the culture. Not all the time but most of the time. Still, I do apologize.

For you and the people you have worked with; I wish safety for the ones you have worked with. It's a far, far dream that will come true that LGBT people will be accepted one day.

Thank you for explaining it to me then, I understand that I was making assumptions but I assumed wrong. It's on me

And no worries on thinking I was American, I just felt like clearing it up, since here in Sweden we do have a very tolerant view on the LGBT+ (hatred against it exists but much less than elsewhere thankfully) but still I come into contact with it through my own experiences, the people I meet and news from neighbouring countries.

I don't think Asahi would date another man imo. He seems demi-romantic or heteroflexible. So yeah, he was the one who asked out him but, unfortunately, self sabotage is something that is very common in love and people just as it is IRL. You want to be with someone but mess it up on purpose due to being afraid of chances getting hurt.

It's truly possible. I guess I shouldn't have just outright assumed he was homosexual because you do have a point and he can land somewhere on the bisexual spectrum. Good catch.

Thank you for your reply. Always helps to learn.