At this point, i believe that of the two twins, A-TIng is the only one who accepted a compromise so far. After she was taken by Kunlun, she accepted to observe and not intervene. When she was sent to the mortal world, she behaved very uncharacteristically, by just watching from the shadows, as though she was above mortals' struggles. Because she was taught this in Kunlun. This 'wait and see' attitude didn't quite prove to be a good thing for A-Ting. Because the whole idea behind it was 'to not intervene if other immortals are involved'. Di Wen had asked to observe and not be rash. This led to this disaster.
And now, i believe it is time for Qu Chen's turn to bend his way of thinking a bit...