The 100 Girlfriends Who Really, Really, Really, Really, Really Love You - Vol. 16 Ch. 135 - Mother, Um

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As a person with autism, I used to have a very difficult time speaking at a young age. It is for this reason that I feel for Sizuka so much, and it makes me love my own mum so much more for helping me throughout those early years of my life. It also makes me hate Shizuka's mother. She may have had good intentions, but it doesn't change the fact that she was a very abusive parent who didn't even bother actually looking after Shizuka.

It also makes me hate all the early commenters in this thread for even insinuating that Rentarou and the rest of the family enabling and babying Shizuka when that isn't even the case. Quite the opposite actually. In fact, they helped her way more than her own mother ever did. And if you had read the entire manga up to this point, you would clearly see that she is improving in more ways than one. And it is all thanks to the support she has with the Rentarou family.
 
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tl;dr: these last two chapters are a little too heavy for a fun harem series

I'm sorry, but like I said the last chapter, her mother has a point. And obviously, abusing your child is a no-no.
It's not like she's retarded or anything (although severely lacks practice with talking because... she doesn't), and tbh, Rentarou/Rentarou's family are all just enabling her at this point. It's only tolerable in anime/manga, but not really in real life.
Again, cute and quirky anime traits are usually easy to "don't think about it too much it's cute/anime", but the author turned it into a serious issue with the talk and the um, abuse. 100 Girlfriends is a usually lighthearted series, which is why I found these recent chapters with Shizuka jarring and why I dislike them.

Not to mention that:
  • Her mother has very valid fears for her future, although she did it the wrong way and actually made it worse, if not at least stalled Shizuka.
  • Rentarou: "So what if she's not very good at speaking?!" Um, she's way WAY worse than "not good" at speaking my dude.
  • Unironically, Rentarou did most of the talking for her.
  • And then... the chapter just ends with all of them still enabling her. I guess her mom being a little less strict/abusive would help Shizuka, but now it just makes Rentarou look like he doesn't want to help Shizuka become better.
There's this thing called being selectively mute. It's a thing some people do. While certainly not common, it very much still exists. There's also people who are completely mute, whether due to trauma or even just bad luck genetically. Being mute is not something that makes you less of a person. Nor is not forcing someone who doesn't wish to speak a bad thing
 
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Some neurodivergent people out here are non verbal, this is specifically prevalent for autistic folks. This is the way they are, and they do exist, within society. Some neurodivergent people also can speak, but that takes a big toll on their health...is extremely energy consuming and lead to burnout at some point in life. Those people push their limits because of the same reasonning, if everyone can do it, they too, can, if they try hard enough, until they break, medically break, physically break. The idea of non verbal people being retarded also show how limited your knowledge about that topic is. Intelligence is a not a straight line, it's a spectrum. For example even a animal might outsmart you on a given task. But that doesn't mean you're retarded, you have other skills up your sleeves. For non verbal people, speaking is abuse, speaking is destroying their mental health.
Like gay conversion therapy, therapy to make people verbal also exist, this attempt to make people fit a certain idea of normal is abuse, it gove them ptsd. It says a lot about our current society.
People with dyslexia or dyscalculia can outperform normal people on some tasks but it is regarded as a flaw because our schooling system put a big emphasis on reading and mathematics. You never see a illness about lack of creativity. Some people are creative and some aren't, and it's okay, but not all skill benefits from the same acceptance. What if a person isn't creative ? Is it that important ? No, they probably have their own strong points. Imagine directly labelling them as retarded....The double standard is tough. And that's seemed to be the case for Shizuka san. Actually I think that the author did a great job in giving visibility to a minority, and in a very smart way. It's actually more effective to ask for help and find a social group that'll be willing to listen to your needs and support you rather than hiding how much you're struggling and overworking yourself, that's the secret recipy for a crippling mental health and that's for everyone, verbal or not. The author giving visibility might change what is tolerated or not in real life. And tolerated or not, people like Shizuka do exist, do suffer and non verbal people that exist in real life can be cute and quirky. I can understand your point on the sudden swift in genre though, not to your liking, fine, but please stop spreading misinformation and hate. Therenis nothing more dangerous than hate disguised as concern.
If you really were concerned about Shizuka then you're doing the opposite of what can really help her. Which is creating a place for her to thrive in society. She can communicate just fine with modern devices.... rejection at this point is purely social chosen rejection.
It also pains me how mental health is disregarded even to this day. It's not because you can't see it that the struggles don't exist. Can you see love ? Then does love exist ? For depressed people even doing simple things is not simple yet it is so easily labelled as lazy.
You also seems to lack knowledge in Japanese language. Maybe that's on the translation team but you basically almost never say something straightforwardly in Japanese. Even more so with someone you just met and your senior or superior. The phrasing you mentioned about is very clear to understand for japanese people and both of them knew of the meaning in

Even, straight out saying"yeah she can't speak but it's fine" would've been rude as fuck.

Also....have you missed the last panels where she speaks herself to her mom ? Acknowledging that she ran away from communication and decided to change that ? While maintaining her boundaries.

They gave her a place to exist and thrive as herself. It's more than what we could ever wish for in real life. And it's beautiful. At the end her mom said something along the lines of "So this is how you communicate ?" realising that in a attempt to "better" her daughter by projecting her own insecurities onto her she lost sight of her daughter and severed real communication. They were able to mendle that back at the end.
You, I like you a lot. Thank you for taking the effort to type all this out
 
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Now this was a good chapter with a sweet ending. Rentarou didn't go cray-cray for once and stood up for Shizuka when she really needed it the most. I hope I could be like that if I ever had a girlfriend. Then again, I'm more like a repellant hah
It's alright. This just proves that the Love God goofed again and you'll meet your soulmate(s?) Later.
 
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really giving me emotional whiplash here, one chap we get introduced to a girl who only fears things she can't touch, and can stop a fckin car with a kick

next there's this
 
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The mother was actually right in her intentions but sadly the solution as simple as "take her book/smartphone"

now that i think about, she doesnt talk because she is shy?
 
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tl;dr: these last two chapters are a little too heavy for a fun harem series

I'm sorry, but like I said the last chapter, her mother has a point. And obviously, abusing your child is a no-no.
It's not like she's retarded or anything (although severely lacks practice with talking because... she doesn't), and tbh, Rentarou/Rentarou's family are all just enabling her at this point. It's only tolerable in anime/manga, but not really in real life.
Again, cute and quirky anime traits are usually easy to "don't think about it too much it's cute/anime", but the author turned it into a serious issue with the talk and the um, abuse. 100 Girlfriends is a usually lighthearted series, which is why I found these recent chapters with Shizuka jarring and why I dislike them.

Not to mention that:
  • Her mother has very valid fears for her future, although she did it the wrong way and actually made it worse, if not at least stalled Shizuka.
  • Rentarou: "So what if she's not very good at speaking?!" Um, she's way WAY worse than "not good" at speaking my dude.
  • Unironically, Rentarou did most of the talking for her.
  • And then... the chapter just ends with all of them still enabling her. I guess her mom being a little less strict/abusive would help Shizuka, but now it just makes Rentarou look like he doesn't want to help Shizuka become better.
What the fuck are you talking about?
 
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Thanks for the reply. I don't care too much about the chapter anymore though to reply properly, sorry about that.
I do still wish that the author didn't make these recent chapters, as well as the author setting it in stone that Shizuka's mom beat/spank her from her flashbacks in her first appearance. To be honest, my main issue with these past two chapters are that they're just wayyy too depressing for a silly and lighthearted series that it's extremely jarring to me, and I guess a couple of people who liked my original comment.
Bro if you can't accept deep dark chapters like this I think you should go read something else.
 
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I can't help you if even the tl;dr is too complicated for you
Well you see, it's not too complex, it's just absurdly idiotic (respectfully). Shizuka has already proven time and time again that she CAN speak, she just really doesn't WANT to speak.

I don't know about you, but I believe people deserve the freedom to choose whether or not they wish to speak, especially if it doesn't even negatively affect their day to day life.
 
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The mother was actually right in her intentions but sadly the solution as simple as "take her book/smartphone"

now that i think about, she doesnt talk because she is shy?
It seems like she has, 1. a serious stutter and, 2. struggles to speak above a certain decibel level, so she is often not heard. It could be purely due to social anxiety or shyness. But there may be an actual, physical, mechanical issues with her vocal chords. Could be a mix of both, even. I'm not entirely sure if vocal chords and the muscles associated with speech can atrophy from disuse, but it seems plausible. People do "lose their voice" from throat infections and the like.

I actually lean towards there being a mechanical issue. I mean, Shizuka doesn't even laugh aloud, when that should be an autonomic response. She can't raise her voice to a shout, even while in danger. She can talk, yeah, but it's always very quietly, with a great deal of difficulty. It's very possible speaking loudly is physically painful for her, as well as emotionally. It may also take excessive focus to force her throat to form the noises. She's definitely shy of speaking with her own voice, no doubt about it. But that would go hand in hand with it being difficult for her to speak at all, and being scolded constantly for being too quiet. As someone whose vocal chords are often in less than stellar shape from a couple different health issues, I can say that being excessively raspy or faint-voiced is definitely something you get self-conscious about. And I didn't grow up with it, nor is it more than a passing, if recurring, problem. If it wasn't, I'd probably prefer to use text-to-speech too.

...Or I might be taking the gags a bit too seriously. But it's a potential angle I don't see a lot of commenters tackling. Physical issues can easily feed into psychological ones.
 
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tl;dr: these last two chapters are a little too heavy for a fun harem series

I'm sorry, but like I said the last chapter, her mother has a point. And obviously, abusing your child is a no-no.
It's not like she's retarded or anything (although severely lacks practice with talking because... she doesn't), and tbh, Rentarou/Rentarou's family are all just enabling her at this point. It's only tolerable in anime/manga, but not really in real life.
Again, cute and quirky anime traits are usually easy to "don't think about it too much it's cute/anime", but the author turned it into a serious issue with the talk and the um, abuse. 100 Girlfriends is a usually lighthearted series, which is why I found these recent chapters with Shizuka jarring and why I dislike them.

Not to mention that:
  • Her mother has very valid fears for her future, although she did it the wrong way and actually made it worse, if not at least stalled Shizuka.
  • Rentarou: "So what if she's not very good at speaking?!" Um, she's way WAY worse than "not good" at speaking my dude.
  • Unironically, Rentarou did most of the talking for her.
  • And then... the chapter just ends with all of them still enabling her. I guess her mom being a little less strict/abusive would help Shizuka, but now it just makes Rentarou look like he doesn't want to help Shizuka become better.
Okay since this comment is ground-zero for the amount of comments on this chapter, I'm pitching in.

I have absolutely no idea how this is "jarring" to literally anyone who has reading comprehension. These last two chapters were foreshadowed in Chapter THREE. The third chapter, where we get a small glimpse into Shizuka's home life (hint: it's bad). This did not come out of nowhere. This is perfectly inline with what the manga has already set up.
Not to mention there have been so many other chapters with nearly no comedy focus at all.

Secondly, valid concerns or no, there is absolutely 0 (((ZERO)NONE)ZILTCH) reasons to scream at and beat your own child over what could be percieved as a speech impediment, or worse, a mental disorder. There is no excuse that could justify actions that egregious.

Third, someone already brought it up but I wanted to drive home the point, please reconsider what the term "enable" means in context of your comment and this manga and what it means to be an "enabler".
Yes, Rentarou's family is 'enabling' her to express herself in a way she is comfortable with, much like how giving a crutch to someone with a broken leg 'enables' them to walk as they heal. Putting what amounts to friends helping a friend overcome a speech imediment on the same level as someone giving their crackhead friend a monthy allowance is honestly absurd.

You can dislike these last two chapters for being tonal whiplash, that's all well and good, we can agree to disagree, but jesus man, you don't need to literally validate an abuser (fictional, but grounded) to justify your opinion.
 

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