I get the distinct feeling that her husband DOES love her and DOESN'T want to get divorced, so he's came up with this convoluted plan to probably get at her family through the divorce so they'll face capital punishment for what they've done. In the meantime he had to distance himself from her and now that she's seeking an affair he can actually express himself and his love just not directly to her face, which is again a very stupid and convoluted plan that really only punishes the one he loves...
It's fucked up.