I reread the chapter one more time. Yes, it is probably an arranged marriage, although the girl is clearly in love with him. That does not really excuse his behavior though. His insensitivity aside, he's acting as if he is her dad, not her partner, which is a very bad position to take. Also, if he really wants to hear her opinion, he could have just paid attention to what was going on, because only an idiot wouldn't notice that she has very different expectations for this relationship than he does. They should talk about it - and no, giving her a lecture as it occurred in this chapter is not the same thing.