Being unburdened by what has been can still leave you unchanged if you think you must be calm and live in peace no matter how things change.
Irrationality never runs out of tricks under its sleeves to counter your desire of wanting peace.
The key is to let yourself waver. In your view of evil, justice, friendship, power, success, parents, dreams, hopes, and love, let them all change. If the king of irrationality wants these to change, then you can play the same game. Choose what you stand for strongly, but hold it loosely. This doesn't guarantee you'll win, but it'll make it much harder for you to lose.
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I love this series so much. It is fun and sparks you to think