@Feeder So Imma be upfront here and say some pretty controversial things. Ahem. I have to disagree with you. People treat sex like it's "just a thing" but sex does have an impact on psychological and physiological health. We judge people all the time for what they do in their home, we just treat sex like it's different because it's sex and people treat the idiom "who are you to judge?" like it's some sort of shield when it isn't. If you saw someone's house covered in garbage from door to door, you'd say they're a slob. If you saw someone's walls covered in inane babble and diagrams of historical murders, you'd say they need help. We judge people all the time for what they do in their home, even if we don't confront them on it. Judgements are innate in human nature.
Even more so, we always pick mates who we feel reflect a certain beliefs we have. A man who believes in comitting rape is unlikely to find a woman who also believes in it. The guy who thinks it's wrong to talk a above certain volume is unlikely to marry a woman who often raises her voice. We do this BECAUSE we judge. It's something humans do and we need to stop acting like "judgement" is the end all be all. You've been judged. You've judged others. I feel like we need to get past that as a society and realize that judging things is literally one of the most human things you could ever do because if you pay attention, you'll find you do it more often than you realize.
Aside from that I've often found that the wilder and crazier sex a person has, the more likely they are to have some messed up history. I have found that people who truly just indulge in sex are doing it because they're using it to drown something out from their minds. How many times have you heard of the wild, crazy, sex-driven girl having a decent social life? Never. Something's usually always wrong with them. Why do we have the term "Don't stick your dick in crazy"? Because it turns out that the people who focus more on their looks and physical satisfaction tend to be...not too well together.
For people to want sex, there has to be a reason behind it. There has to be some meaning to it. Otherwise you get intentional celibates (yes, they exist) and they focus on things that they feel DO have worth and merit. A lot of societies today have these guys in spades, because they don't see sex as anything special anymore. It's just a thing you do that, unless you're making kids, doesn't have many benefits you couldn't get on your own from porn. That's also human nature, people chase after things that have meaning to them. That's the reason you don't chase a ball around in circles all day every day. You know there's no point in doing that. So why do we think that just because it's sex, people just change the way they are all of a sudden? They don't. Sex HAS to have some meaning to a person otherwise they ignore it. Yes, that causes divisions. Yes, people will argue about that meaning. Yes some people will get their feelings hurt. Boohoo, that's life.
