Well, Letting kids of nobles Maybe die, is still great motivator, it will kick literally everyone in the gut forcing them to take it seriously and do something instead of chacking it up to one time event, small threat, or minor issue that they can ignore,is it morally right? By no means, but it sure as hell will make death of more children and people less likely. "Let few die to save thousands" is a way as old as universe.If you allow the death of literal kids because it would be a "great motivator" for the people to wake up, you are even worse then then demon folk. Just talk to the MC who is a fucking princess or the king himself. Just telling them to the overall plan concerning the relics are enough. It is bad writing UNLESS there is a defense setup going on in the background ON TOP of MC and co getting trained.
Now the fact that this is done from mouth of seemingly kind lady is the issue, but honestly... With some very suspicious details around her, I won't be surprised if she Can, maybe with help of other adults, guard kids despite possible threat, and she doesn't know how big attack demons plan, she only knows that they have plan