Akanabe-sensei wa Tereshirazu - Vol. 4 Ch. 40 - Sensei and Rain

[MrMeh]

That's not natural at all. That's called being insecure. What happens if she wants to go to the beach? Will he make her wear a long sleeve shirt to cover as well? Dude needs to realize that she's with him because she wants to be with him and no one else. Eventually that insecurity will lead to controlling. As I stated before she got by before him and she can get by with him. Does he think that men hasn't looked at her before they started dating? Being exclusive means that you don't date other partners it doesn't mean that you control what your partner wears. That's just ridiculous and suffocating.

People of the past were objectively more intimate and I believe it's due to the fact they knew they had things they only shared with their partners.
If you're okay with everyone seeing your girlfriend's tits out then good for you but many of us would rather have that warm feeling if knowing such is just for us.

If exclusive means just not being cheating scum or a poly pervert then god help us.

Regardless it's about moderation, you are only looking at this from the female perspective and aren't considering how both parties need to compromise on this.
We are not at that middle ground and are shifting every day further towards exhibitionism.

 

[BlargET]

Comments devolving into arguments about "anti-body messaging”


Me: this was a wholesome chapter, glad my boy stepped up to the plate to be more manly.👍🏻

 

[Graywing]

People of the past were objectively more intimate and I believe it's due to the fact they knew they had things they only shared with their partners.
If you're okay with everyone seeing your girlfriend's tits out then good for you but many of us would rather have that warm feeling if knowing such is just for us.

If exclusive means just not being cheating scum or a poly pervert then god help us.

Regardless it's about moderation, you are only looking at this from the female perspective and aren't considering how both parties need to compromise on this.
We are not at that middle ground and are shifting every day further towards exhibitionism.

There's a difference between not wanting to have her chest out to not wanting her to have any skin showing at all. That's MCs problem. This is the same guy who's afraid to go the beach because other men might see her in a bikini. Oh the horror. Also, "people of the past were objectively more intimate"? Where did you get that nonsense from? Have you ever been in a relationship? Seems like you're not speaking from any experience and like you watched a documentary about it. Like I said, this reeks of insecurity and in reality it's really unattractive. Confidence goes a long way and the MC definitely needs some.

 

[MrMeh]

There's a difference between not wanting to have her chest out to not wanting her to have any skin showing at all. That's MCs problem. This is the same guy who's afraid to go the beach because other men might see her in a bikini. Oh the horror. Also, "people of the past were objectively more intimate"? Where did you get that nonsense from? Have you ever been in a relationship? Seems like you're not speaking from any experience and like you watched a documentary about it. Like I said, this reeks of insecurity and in reality it's really unattractive. Confidence goes a long way and the MC definitely needs some.

It's pretty obvious that it's the cleavage that's the issue not her skin in this chapter.
Cleavage is objectively titillating, there's no good reason to show it off to others.

Where did you get that nonsense from?

Observing past generations, their works of art/media and comparing them against how people act and feel now.
Applying an agent based systems approach i.e. simple rules create complex outcomes, a common phenomenon in nature.

My conclusion is many of these major issues of our age stem from the lack of commitment we have for one another.
Whether that be in men who can't get aroused as strongly and are sedated or in women and the potential addiction of being desired by the crowd.

Have I been in relationships before.

I have, we however can tell the difference between beauty and titillation and acknowledge some things are shown, some are not.
From my perspective you're just as bad as those that consider hair to be arousing instead of just pretty.
The opposite extreme.

Confidence is important but don't mistake confidence for prideless apathy.
Know what you want from a relationship, respect those boundaries and find someone who agrees.
I think many people don't realise their own boundaries and often go past them only to suffer in later life.

 

[Graywing]

It's pretty obvious that it's the cleavage that's the issue not her skin in this chapter.
Cleavage is objectively titillating, there's no good reason to show it off to others.


Observing past generations, their works of art/media and comparing them against how people act and feel now.
Applying an agent based systems approach i.e. simple rules create complex outcomes, a common phenomenon in nature.

My conclusion is many of these major issues of our age stem from the lack of commitment we have for one another.
Whether that be in men who can't get aroused as strongly and are sedated or in women and the potential addiction of being desired by the crowd.


I have, we however can tell the difference between beauty and titillation and acknowledge some things are shown, some are not.
From my perspective you're just as bad as those that consider hair to be arousing instead of just pretty.
The opposite extreme.

Confidence is important but don't mistake confidence for prideless apathy.
Know what you want from a relationship, respect those boundaries and find someone who agrees.
I think many people don't realise their own boundaries and often go past them only to suffer in later life.

Yeah... Sounds like you got this from chatgpt. First of all don't know where you somehow got that previous generations were more intimate. I'm in my 40s (born in the year of the Ghostbuster( and can tell you that's a load of crap. Look at how women were treated in the 50s. There's a reason why the sexual revolution happened a decade later and then the rise of divorces when no fault divorce was acceptable a decade after that. Your observation is a really shallow one and it does come off as really inexperienced. Boundaries are fine but it's not fine when it's only one person's boundaries being respected. Once again, he's insecure and you're making excuses to try and romanticize it. Also him saying that it's okay because he's there with her is really infantilizing. She's a grown adult who has her own agency. Did he ever think how she survived without him against the big bad men (who gasp might look at her) before they got together? If people are pushy then yeah I see no problem with stepping in but he's creating an issue where there isn't one. This isn't just about her shirt being wet, this is about how he's been since they got together. If you can't see that then you need to go reread.

 

[Rowdy91]

Waaaaaaay too many serious people here and on Reddit.

Boyfriend overhears people perving out over his lightly-dressed girlfriend, so he asks said girlfriend to zip up.

I mean, she straight-up said she was walking around in her indoor exercise clothes. That's not really something you do.

 

[MrMeh]

Yeah... Sounds like you got this from chatgpt. First of all don't know where you somehow got that previous generations were more intimate. I'm in my 40s (born in the year of the Ghostbuster( and can tell you that's a load of crap. Look at how women were treated in the 50s. There's a reason why the sexual revolution happened a decade later. Your observation is a really shallow one and it does come off as really inexperienced. Boundaries are fine but it's not fine when it's only one person's boundaries being respected. Once again, he's insecure and you're making excuses to try and romanticize it. Also him saying that it's okay because he's there with her is really infantilizing. She's a grown adult who has her own agency. Did he ever think how she survived without him against the big bad men (who gasp might look at her) before they got together? If people are pushy then yeah I see no problem with stepping in but he's creating an issue where there isn't one. This isn't just about her shirt being wet, this is about how he's been since they got together. If you can't see that then you need to go reread.

Ironically I am AI graduate, but focused on the study of agent based systems
I hate Artificial general intelligences though, especially those that generate imagery.

40s

You're younger than the boomers, you need to look further back.
I'm guessing you're American whereas I can't apply to your mid 20th century perspective.
Nor, likely, your perspective on the 19th century and earlier.
That perspective does not apply to my country's history.

I think you're missing the key point, I am making.
That it often isn't insecurity and is about what each wants out of the relationship.
If they want different things then they should break up early on before ruining their lives.
Sometimes boundaries are incompatible and that additionally some people set boundaries for themselves that are wider than they can handle, only to realise such in later life when they're sad, divorced and alone.
Or married but unhappy and loveless.

To not acknowledge this is just contributing to the pendulum of the gender war that's been raging for 100 years.