Are You Okay With a Slightly Older Girlfriend? - Vol. 3 Ch. 11 - Heartbreak Massage

[MangaDex]

 

[Tamerlane]

Pretty sure MC is prime husbando material for some women.

 

[conscript117]

Thank you for the chapter....

 

[binhex]

My wife and daughter love to get massages. I just feel like someone is attacking me and I want to fight. My wife tried to give me a massage when we first started dating, and I thought, it seems to make her feel good so why not. A minute later I was backing away and asking if she wanted to break up. Hugs are awesome, I can get hugs all day long, just don't try to ease my stress, by causing me stress.

 

[FgoSegul]

Honestly, i never noticed how taboo the age difference actually is but im having to decide between my morals and my penis. Life is hard. Im talking about this specific manga to be clear just incase someone gets the wrong idea.

 

[That-Guy]

I used to go to blind massage specialists. (Yes they were literally blind, but they have handrails to guide themselves from room to room.) Specifically chose a male one because my muscles, neck and back are stiff as a board. It was honestly amazing. It does make you feel lighter when the massage is done right.

 

[jokerxhisoka]

the fu was that fight?

 

[oyeayeah]

??????? Someone explain me plz wtf made the girl angry? He only said, "You come from Showa" or whatever.

 

[Purplelibraryguy]

@oyeayeah Speaking as someone married to a woman noticeably older than me, it is one's job as the younger boyfriend/husband to seriously avoid calling attention to that age difference, let alone exaggerating it. Being older makes girls really insecure. They always fear you're gonna want to trade them in for a younger model. Over time, and I mean years, this issue shrinks (well, assuming you're committed and trustworthy) . . . but never really goes away.

By the way, it's really worth cultivating massage skills. There are times I joke with my wife that it's the main reason she keeps me around . . . I am far more effective for her than Tylenol, whether it's headaches, back pain or what. And then there's your more romantic type massage . . . always works better when the intro is the real deal.

 

[ghostt]

This is fucking retarded.. she needs to grow the fuck up, she’s an adult and this is how she acts? Fucking disgusted he is apologizing for something he shouldn’t have to apologize for, like fuck is the guy supposed to tip toe around the fact she’s older than him? After acting like that she’s the one who should’ve been apologizing.

 

[Simpleton]

@ghostt Aayy, chill down a little. Sometimes fights start over small words that one party thought were harmless and the other party would usually also let slide. But then just that day they were tired, or had a sore shoulder, or whatever that might have made their energy low or their tempers chafed.
And once the fight has started, it takes some time to cool down again. Best solution might indeed be to just take a breather, separate for an hour or so.
Then she had troubles reconnecting after the ghosting (also because she felt guilty over over-reacting) and meanwhile his buddies hype the deal up totally. So suddenly he comes out with a grade A "I killed your hamster" apology, and this makes it seem excessive.

However - he should have apologized, and he did. She should also apologize, and she did. This is called "making up", and when adult couples do it, it can also lead to "making out". When one party wants to stick with feeling insulted and claiming they shouldn't apologize "because I was right", that's usually a sign of a bad relation. If it's not a big deal (she didn't kill your hamster), just gloss it over with a mutual apology, try to pay attention to how tired/hungry/sick/worn out the partner is, and get on with your mutual life.

Either that, or find a flawless 2D girl, which seems to be the common Manga option XD

 

[Nyamses]

Boy, was this some contrived conflict. I can see what the author was going for, but the execution was terrible.

 

[chusetto]

I was really expecting her to wear bloomers xD

 

[ninjazz]

uh. i know it's been a while but weren't we supposed to find out why some random girl sort-of-not-really confesses to MC last chapter? i thought this would be a good lead up since FMC was being petty.

 

[Eliminateur]

@Purplelibraryguy i feel you man!, i'm pretty handy at giving massages and like you say, it can be a "gateway" for more interesting stuff hehe.
BTW, like AvE says "if you ain't pretty, you better be useful" 😆, massages is one way 🤣

 

[Giga]

@Simpleton: While that's how things do go down in reality, the criticism by @ghostt is spot on. None of what you said, Simpleton, was an excuse for her behavior, and even Hime realized that. Credit goes to Hime for resisting the attempts of her "friend" to stoke the flames of Hime's nonexistent anger--she's the actual worst party in this, vicariously raging at Momota and handling something as delicate as someone else's relationship with the care of a sledgehammer. (She's not even that old, has a kid, has a husband, and still acts like a hardened misandrist feminist.) All it would have taken was for Momota to break out of the spell of love for a moment, realize that he was getting the short end of the stick in treatment between the two, and Hime would have lost what she truly valued--and the "friend" would suffer nothing at all, with family intact, ineffectually consoling Hime with likely the same misandry that got Hime there in the first place.

Speaking of Momota, I can see why he did what he did. He genuinely loves Hime, and cared so very much about her that he went right back to taking total responsibility after Kana's warning that women will irrationally remain in the grips of extreme anger even if they are in the wrong. He didn't want to lose her, and as such did what he could to assuage Hime's (perceived) anger; this--as I said--(d)evolved into conditioning himself to think he was guilty of a deep transgression, and had to properly make amends. Luckily for him, Hime isn't a bad girl--we see that in the conversation with the "friend". Had it been someone else (like the "friend"), he'd have gotten far worse; it'd be the first sign/step of an abusive relationship. Women do engage in that sort of behavior because--generally--they are not capable of easily taking responsibility for their actions, nor does society expect them to (for that reason). It takes endurance of emotional discomfort to do so, and they are less capable of dealing with that than men are.

On a side note...the words of the "friend", and even Hime's immediate reaction to Momota's words (but more the former) evoked memories of how, today, men the world over (at least in the West) are expected to regard women as equal to them; enough will assert that women are in fact superior. If anyone wants to advance that sort of perspective as truth, they must hold women to the standards men must live by--women cannot receive a pass for this sort of irrational behavior.

 

[Kanie15]

@Giga , Well said .... Some men really have that heavy for knowing the consequences of their own actions even if it harmlessly offended the partner's feelings without knowing it and then expecting that men should know better .

 

[HALLELUJAH]

Man all the discussions in this thread I'm still wondering is that a saint quartz on page 29 lmao

 

[stillmen]

This was not heartbreak at all! Damn it

 

[SolarDust]

Hope next time, fmc explains it to mc instead of getting mad and not talk about it as these misunderstood age issues become recurring.