I actually didn't know about the stat for before 32-35, but it makes complete sense when you consider sexual market value. (i.e. the peak), which women hit the wall of around the age of 25-30. So they can't make the same choices as before because they're running out of time.
Although this is purely a perception thing, because the choice of riding the cock carousel as some call it, has it's consequences. Like not being taken seriously by any man that would be genuinely worth marrying, since no self-respecting man would want such a "woman" as the mother of his children.
And for anyone who tries to cope otherwise just ask yourself this: Would you want you daughter to have lived like that? would you want your son to marry a woman like that?
Don't answer, I know the true answer already, even if you deny it. (No you wouldn't want your daughter to ruin herself, and no you wouldn't want your son to destroy his life and be used like a fool, even if you don't acknowledge these truths it's engraved into your DNA and you feel it on a biological level, knowing this to be true. You can't fight thousands of years of human evolution).
Ahem, now back to replying to you Monn12.
There's also the fact of, for men, cheating isn't the same as it is for women. Women need to like the guy, and cheating isn't just purely a sexual act, but the act of falling for him, and having a series of meetups and dates (the cheating happens well before they even kiss let alone have sex).
Where as for men, they can't hate the girl, but if she's hot he'd fuck... plain and simple. The decrease in testosterone is more likely reducing the horny than it is the risk taking... although that is a factor as well.
It's why in some cultures the women don't care if the man has sex with other women if it's purely for his horny and nothing more. Only when it's a genuine attraction and feelings are they hurt or care.
E.g. Which do you think a wife/gf would hate more, the man fucking some random hot bitch when he was out at a party, or him spending time with a girl, who he feels he can talk to, and listens to him, and genuinely enjoys spending time with... and hasn't done anything sexual with her. Spoiler, most hate the latter more.
It's just that in the case of women, they need the latter in order for the former to even happen.
You also have the whole being the "receiver" issue as well. (parental uncertainty for men is a large reason why they hate it even more than women, from a biological standpoint, where as women don't have that concern, since it's their womb).
Now for more stats and data, there is another big difference between men and woman in that regard... when it comes to cheating, it's women in general, but for men... it's not. Only the top 5-15% of men have the option to cheat, now it isn't like it never happens in the lower bracket, but it's fkn rare.
It's because of this structure:
Bottom 85% of men > Women > Top 15% of men.
Btw 15% is being generous, it's much lower.
But suffice to say, the men women chase, have a shit ton of options, so they can take the risk and still be fine. (hell, in many cases it's not even cheating, they're just not being serious, and it's the salty women that thought they could tame him, that call it cheating, when he never gave them exclusivity to begin with, and was honest about it too).
This is also probably why you've seen it more in the older generation, where it was more balanced than it is now.
Hoeflation is real, you work 10 times harder than your grandpa for a woman that is 1000 times worse than your grandma. (I ain't using the nicer phrasing of 10 time worse, cause it's exponentially worse, not linearly).
I do disagree that most women cheat because of wanting to leave the relationship, it isn't that, it's they get this idea they could do better, and want to see other options, and then come back if they can't replace them. (usually put in their head by a hoe friend or brainwashing media... like all the popular "romance" films, the female mc is cheating.... like... all of them, not even joking, pretty sure 50 shades of grey had a more loyal female MC than the supposed "wholesome" "romance" films).
And yeah, women do be gaslighting the men they cheated on, throwing all accountability out the window, because western society has fostered that, removing accountability and consequences socially. So they get away with it, until they can't anymore (the wall is the biggest "O shit, you done fucked up bitch!").
Simps go "O but they deserve love too!" but reality is... no, they don't. They traded genuine love and commitment for whoring around for a decade... That's the fucking price. And despite society saying otherwise THEY FUCKING KNOW! they just ignore it, but don't be fooled, they know, we all know.
That's the con of living life on easy mode, you can make choices that permanently fuck you over. where as hard mode, the pro is, you can fuck up in almost every way, and still recover from it. Just that succeeding in the first place is hard, so only those who actually succeed even get to reap rewards, most never do.
To state the obvious, being a man = hard mode, being a woman = easy mode.
Note: this isn't saying that each don't have their challenges, what it means is that men have to earn everything, but women are born with almost everything, there's a few things they can earn, but not much. It's like the difference between a factory settings lambo, or a lambo with all the extras, it's still a lambo. (yes I compared women to cars... O nooooooooo, boohooo).
Where as a man is the "Construction kit", just that it takes your a decade of consistent hard word to actually get anywhere with it.
Just to add: some of the ways women can build themselves are the basics, health, fitness, building the ass XP, cooking (this isn't a cop-out... men do love a woman that can cook...), hygeine, and further developing any motherly traits. (notice that a lot of these women seek out in men as well... soooo those are tit for tat
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A simpler way to think about it, women come pre-built, men need to be built. the trade-off is, women can't be rebuilt once broken (being a whore), where as men can (bar some exceptional circumstances).
This is also one of the reasons why r*pe is viewed as such an extreme crime, because it is destroying their life.
Obviously not the same as a woman being a whore... but still massively destructive, especially mentally.
One chose to ruin their life, the other had it stolen from them, these are not the same.
O and just briefly, women do cheat more than men, it's a basic statistic thing. Simply because more women have the opportunity to cheat than men do. (refer back to the 85% men chasing women, and the women chasing 15%).
Most of male cheating, is done by a minority of men, while most of female cheating is more distributed.
Now I will say this, if all men had the option to... that'd be a completely different story. Since a lot of men don't cheat, simply because they don't have the option to. (which imo, they ain't loyal, since loyalty can be tested, not to say they should be put in such environments, that's different).
Also.... The only time a Man truly experiences unconditional love... is once... from his mother, part of being on "hard mode" and having to build yourself, is that you don't have the privilege of love unless you have done something. Not genuine love. Now it doesn't have to be something grand, it can be as simple as building a little life for yourself that a woman and a child or two could fit into... actually... given current economy is pretty grand these days...
But you don't get love as a man by just being you as an adult, you have to be doing something or going somewhere.
