Class de 2 Banme ni Kawaii Onna no Ko to Tomodachi ni Natta - Ch. 28.2 - A Family Gathering

[waandwe]

At first I thought that this guy is overreacting, I wanted to leave a comment about it on a thread a few chapters ago... but then I took about a day to think about it, my parents also got separated when I was in middle school so I thought the MC and I have some kind of the same background but it was very strange why I can't relate to him getting jealous of other who has a complete family and wanting to reunite his family back... And then it hit me... I grew up with not having my family whole... there was only like 6 years of my life where I have a mom and a dad together in one house and that 6 years was like a blur in my memory... from the day that I was born till I turned 6 years old... soon after my mom went abroad for work and my dad was almost never at home because of work... I guess growing up like that, I started to unconsciously think that "that" is what is normal, having relatives take care of you instead is the norm, even though I know of course that having a whole family is what actually is normal but what became normal to me is what I grew up with... I got used to having no mom and dad around, but I never got jealous with other kids that have their parents with them... and it also doesn't help that a few of my cousins are in the same situation that I was in, that made it seem like it is normal that way...

after that, all I could just say is, "wow that's f'ed up"... so I started to read the succeeding chapters until to this point with an open mind... the reason why I can't relate to what the MC was feeling is because, the MC got a taste of what it's like to have a family and he wants that back... but for me, I never experienced it and I never knew what it is like to have a family...

 

[TNT261]

I can relate to this more than I'd care to put in words. Sometimes it's the inadvertent things that hurt the most. Not any one in particular trying to be abusive (maybe they're even just trying their best and things don't work out), but it still hurts. And to hell with intentions. We don't recognize intentions and kids certainly aren't mind readers. At the end of road we aren't even able to feel angry because no one did anything "wrong" and it feels weird (sometimes guilty) wanting "more" because your childhood still wasn't majorly lacking (financially or in terms of needs). But when you see or hear that "what could've been" played out by other families, you can't help but feel something. In my case, I'll say I feel bitter. Bitter that my reality is what it is and nothing can ever change it. This is fiction so there is a "plan" at play here, and I'm hopeful the MC is able to be more genuine with expressing how he feels in his situation (bottling it up really doesn't help and the longer you do that, the more you convince yourself that not doing so places a burden on others). I also hope he's able to even just slightly improve his situation and environment to one he feels better in. At the very least he's still a minor and has some time.

 

[TNT261]

Nah you are not the only one, as a man is fine to express emotions or whatever but one should at the very least have the common decency not to do it in front of people who you have just met and not make the situation awkward for everyone involved.

Ummm? He starts crying uncontrollably, doesn't recognize that he is crying until someone points it out, doesn't understand why he's crying, and then immediately feeling embarrassed and awkward and like he did ruin the dinner he runs out. I mean 1) He's a high schooler and still a minor. The MC is in fact not a man; he's still a boy. 2) Even adults can't fully control their emotions. Excusing myself when they're crying uncontrollably is about as polite as you can get and frankly being polite in that moment doesn't matter much.

 

[rephrete]

Damn man, family topics always gets me in the feels. Stuff just stays in your memory forever even if things got better.