Well as much as i know that Tatiana has a point about the female werewolves, she is still a traitor and terrorist and now it seems she has a role in all this pain for much more time than we thought.
Truth be told about all this thing the solution is quite simple, Phoe just need to be in Mina's custody until she is an adult, then when she has found her bearings as a person, she can decide what to do. If she decides to accept her role in the clan, they can simply accept that she can have one partner and take the long road to resurrect the power of their species, if she decides to not have children, well.. they are still plenty powerful with Akira as their ruler.