Danjo no Yujou wa Seiritsu suru? (Iya, Shinai!!)

[Arr1610]

Himari est super chiante

 

[WiseMansBlood]

Toxic masculinity is not hated of men. Toxic masculinity is the expression of how patriarchy oppresses men. You know, men can't have feelings, men can't like clothes, men can't show too much genuine affection or they might be "gay". Women and children first, because the safety and well-being of men is less valuable. It's fine for men to die in combat and suffer lifetime PTSD, but not women. Men are required to express sexuality in specific ways.

The list goes on and on. It's a poisonous vitriol that destroys men.

I have a lot of compassion for men. I hope more of them find ways to heal from the absolutely noxious cultural messaging that gets pounded into them starting from when they are old enough to walk.

When I call out toxic masculinity, I'm calling out that culture. Not men.

the problem is what of the title screams toxic masulinity? It just sounds like you try to justify your hatred for men under the pretext of toxic masculinity. A lot of racism we have in modern age works the same way. Its like:

Ohh I don't hate men I just hate Toxic masculinity and I want everything and every men that that promotes that gone.
or with racism:
Ohh I don't hate black people, I just hate all the criminal black people and I want every one of these black people and everything that grows this criminality gone.

now both of them can be seen as not too bad sentences until one realises that the view point of what falls into these categories is way to extreme.

To start of with the racism: A person that thinks like what I wrote would see a random black person moving into his neighorhood and then every time they notice them doing something "bad" this bad thing will impact their judgement and nurture their growth of the thought that this person must be a criminal and despicable being, while all the good things are usually brushed off and ignored. This then leads to a seemingly baseless hatred, even though the person involved has his reasons for hating that poor black guy, its just that these reasons are a completely twisted reality created by ones own prejudice and other stuff

and yes the same thing happened to you here. Cause honestly lets look at the title and describtion and find that "toxic masculinity" you said was there:

If you read the title the first part says: "Can a Boy and Girl Friendship Hold Up?" this is a simple question, now what makes it sexist and "toxic masculinity" in your view is the thing written in brackets behind it "(No it can't)" now i guess you somehow saw that as a general statement or something, which then would make it something you could argue is sexist, but quick reminder this is a story, a manga, a romcom, from a japanese website where novels do not have describtions which is why manga titles are getting so long. Its to describe what happens in the story and pic the readers interest. So this title could not have been more clearly related to one specific thing, which is the story the author is trying to tell.

You are saying its sexist because you for no reason saw it as some sort of general Twitter statement, and then thought "wow how dare the author state there can be no friendship between males and females"

Which is utter bullshit because I don't believe you take just any title of every romance book as some sort of true general statement the author tries to make:

or would you say "kill the villainess" is also sexist or well a demand to kill all the evil girls out there. No cause that would be stupid.

and is the author of "don't pick up the trash you threw away" now someone who hates the environment and pollutes it?

Now I could go on and on about different titles that if you take them out of context from the book they would just not make any sense or just send a bad message, like "kill the hero" or "kill the saintess", which would all be some really bad things to say if taken seriously and outside of context.

So the question is why would you think that this particular title is meant as a generalised statement about how boys and girls can't be friends?

Now since we already covered that the title on its own is not enough of a reason to just state this book is full of toxic masculinity lets look at the describtion to find that toxic masculinity you are talking about:

well first we have a "two people vowed eternal friendship and now 2 years later nothing happened" hmm thats definetly super toxic right? Or maybe not!?

ohh yeah right how obvious, here we have it the epitome of toxicity it was obviously: the main character: A second year middle school boy that really loves plants and flowers and is in a gardening club... wait no that can't be right... since when are flower loving boys connected to toxic mascuilinity? Well ig according to you they are! How dare men love plants and flowers, these toxic assholes (bruh really you chose one book to call full of toxic masculinity and its the one thats about a middleschooler who loves flowers )

So wait then it must be the girl that has values of toxic masculinity right? yeah so she is a second year middleschooler girl that hasn't fallen in love yet... hmm yeah so much toxic masculinity.

so yeah the describtion is one of the most untoxic things I have ever seen, and the title as a book title of a romcom, not a life guide, should under no circumstances be taken out of context since that would be so dumb that every author of every fiction book ever would ask them selfs "what is wrong with this one?" like yeah autobiography titles? sure. lifestyle books? yeah ok. Self-advice books? Definetly. These are the books whose titles can be taken as statements one could judge based on how toxic they are and stuff. But applying that onto a romcom book about some flover loving guy just really screams that you try to find any excuse to portray toxic masculinity onto something.

 

[UrAvgReader-v2]

Hey you, yeah you. Do you have a fondness of watching train wreck? But without all the tragedy and the blood?

Go read this. This will make your average Southeast Asian 8PM soap opera look Oscar Worthy.

 

[Sweeth_tooth]

Thanks for the updates!
Btw, I couldn't find the WN/Ln anywhere 😕

 

[HipoSin]

This is at Ch. 26, but I feel like this is mostly her (Himari's) fault. The MC isn't wrong when he says she's acting differently. It constantly looks like she only ever messes with the guy in such an over-the-top way. I can see how he would never equate there being any form of romantic interest from her. It's kind of like the boy who cried wolf; you do it enough times, and no one believes you when it is real.

Don't get me wrong, he makes mistakes, and he easily could use both of them as models for different pieces since his pieces were getting stale with Himari but it feels like he was pretty consistent in only A) being interested in his accessories and B) only "romantically" being interested in the one girl who gave him his passion. Their relationship worked because she didn't want romantic feelings involved, and she wanted to use his "eyes" or his passion, but those limits are also the reason they are in the situation they are in by Ch.26. Ik some people see it as him needing to man up and decide, but from what I'm seeing he made that decision in the beginning and she is now trying to change it and is lashing out.