well, it is only natural to think that he doesn't look manly cuz we have to adjust the way THEIR culture works. It is a parallel world and has only some differences. So far, I only see very gorgeous men. I haven't seen a single handsome man which means that their testosterone is not high enough to make them a threat towards women in the physical aspects. I have seen only handsome women. I am guessing the females and males have other hormones and females have much more than males so they became to dominate females and males and females became the dominant ones since there are more "clever" women than men since physically speaking females mature faster their brain.
I wish the author would dedicate some time to expand more in the lore of this world. I am curious to know how the author describes her world.