I think it's a stretch to assume their relationship deteriorated just because she swapped to sanzuke. You should know that calling your lover with san is extremely common over there, with the more popular options being referring to them without honorifics or with a title like Otou-san or Okaa-san if they have kids together. While it does seem less close, there's any number of reasons for her to have swapped other than them not getting together after that one night, so calling it obvious...nah, I don't think so.
It's not strange if she wasn't planning on staying over, which is what appears to have happened. She told him, he told her not to and then she dipped. It would be closer if she sat next to him to tell him, but she'd also have no reason to tell him if she wasn't dating him anyways so you can cancel out those points.
"staying with" arguably makes my point stronger. You could argue that "dating or going out" with an actress could mean they aren't dating yet, but staying with directly implies that they are in fact dating, and that she's saying it's hard to stay together.
Either way, even if it was a one time thing, which I sincerely doubt, either way she's still a bitch in my eyes, and I hope i never see Airi work on anything again, she's right up there with Nikumara who did Koushiki Furin after telling everyone it was gonna be about pure love.
It's obvious you’ve strayed from the actual point which was explaining the author's intended message to readers (us) and instead got sidetracked into debating whether Sakura character is a "good" or "bad" person. LOL (I laughed at this misunderstanding, I wasn't laughing at you. Please don't get the wrong idea.)
I've ever prefaced by stating that I am not writing to please @diphuc1 (and @box2024 ) who are ShiKura fans or try to defend Sakura, a stance that many here are already aware of. It is partly my fault that I didn't include that disclaimer this time, leading those who unfamiliar with my previous posts to mistakenly believe that I am a fan of the Sakura character. LOL I'm sorry for the misunderstanding.
Anyway, I disagree with you regarding the use of "-san," but I agree with
@diphuc1 who has observed this matter.
The point is, it is normal for your wife to call you "-san" if she has done it since before you married her.
However, it'd certainly be unusual if she used "-kun" before marriage but switched to "-san" afterwards. It'll be normal if she switches to call only your name without any suffix after marriage. But it's not normal to change from "-kun" to "-san" because you'll feel bad about it.
If you’ve read enough rom-com manga, you’ll come across stories where the FMC switches calling the MC from "-kun" to "-san" to let him know she’s upset and wants him to make amends. LOL
Personally, as an Asian, I am accustomed to these cultural nuances, things Westerners often don't grasp because they don't encounter them in their daily lives.
For example,
Western students call a teacher by name such as "Mr. Robert" whereas
Japanese students initially call a teacher by their title alone. This is because it is considered "IMPOLITE" to use the personal name of someone with whom you are not yet close.
So, Japanese students will call Mr. Robert only "Sensei" by omitting the name "Robert" (Westerners often
mistake this for a nickname, but it isn't. We are addressing the person based on their social role rather than assigning them a casual nickname).
Only after becoming closer, we're allowed to use their name.
Addressing someone by their name right from the start is considered impolite (against privacy), please don't do it. If you don't know the person's social status, just call them by comparing the person to your family members like uncle, bros, kid, etc.
There’s actually a trick to this. If you meet a middle-aged woman who is old enough to be your mother and want her to help you something (maybe you're losing the way while travelling), yes, you’d normally call her "Auntie." But it's better to call her "Big Sis" instead and she’ll be really pleased because it implies you don't think she looks old! LOL. However, this technique doesn't work with men because, in opposite, it comes across as an insult. With men, you should just address them according to their actual age, like "Uncle." LOL
I therefore both admire and endorse the observations made by @diphuc1 who is not an Asian but has clearly picked up on these details. Good job.
BTW, to truly enjoy a fiction, we must understand the culture of the country and the time where the author resides. I personally make an effort to understand the cultures especially older ones from study histories to grasp the authors' cultural backgrounds and mindsets in order to better connect with the messages they intended to convey.
The same applies to manga because proper understanding of Japanese society and culture allows me for more enriching reading experience.
However, this doesn't really work well for Grapara because the characters come across as people with a mental disorder who can switch personalities instantly, not undergoing a gradual development like other mangas. LOL
Oh, I agree with your perspective on
Airi Katsura (sensei) because Confucius once said, "A fool is known by saying at least a single word."
It's like how reading her posts on X (Twitter), articles and Grapara reveals that AK (Sensei) likely suffers from some mental illness for a long time, just don't know which level it's now. Normal manga creator won't intend to lure rom-com readers to read the NTR manga from the start without guilt. So sad.
AK (sensei) is mentally ill because she inhabits a world of insane people, a realm where actions deemed wrong in the real world are viewed as correct. Consequently, she commits these acts without any sense of guilt whereas ordinary people would be restraint by their conscience and moral. Only the insane people act with their own distorted belief.
The 2023 and 2024 articles shared by
@A.Tanakaaa in
chapter 135's discussion make it clear that
she set out to deceive rom-com readers from the very beginning and actually enjoyed tormenting them (us).
If I read them sooner, I wouldn't have read Grapara because it is obvious that AK (sensei) takes pleasure in hurting people and the rom-com readers are her specific targets. It’s like knowing someone has arranged to meet you in order to physically harm you, you certainly wouldn't go to meet them just to get killed or injured, right? LOL
But on the other hand, it’s a good thing that I didn’t read it in 2023 or 2024. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be here with you guys, right? LOL
I’d rather not discuss about the word "staying with" as it is extremely broad and doesn't necessarily imply a romantic relationship. It could be anything such as staying as close friends, colleagues, etc.
We don't know because Grapara run out of chapters and panels.
It also applies to the "one-time sex" aspect that we don't know but only see that chapter 133–134 steer the narrative in that direction as an attempt to reduce the hatred directed at Sakura but it failed because what readers truly want is for the FMC not to have sex with anyone other than the MC in a "rom-com" manga.
Furthermore, criticizing other authors in Grapara's disscusion is something I really prefer to avoid. I can do it at his/her manga discussion, not here.
We'll truly separate next week after the seem-to-be epilogue chapter (Keishi Nikishida sensei's style).
Please take care,
Reference to @A.Tanakaaa's post : https://forums.mangadex.org/threads/grapara-vol-14-ch-135-sex-scenes.2699265/post-30849954