I Asked My First Girlfriend Why She Went Out with Me - Ch. 10

[jengosupa]

Guys, you need to go with the times, menhera are the new gyaru.

i... don't think this is menhera
how i understand menhera is the clingy type that needs constant attention and their jealousy is borderline yandere

 

[vannn]

Nah, this bitch is evil, she will not be seeing the kingdom of heaven.

 

[Meridis]

i... don't think this is menhera
how i understand menhera is the clingy type that needs constant attention and their jealousy is borderline yandere

Menhera refers to someone with a mental illness. So it includes that, this, and a bunch of other stuff. Basically, it can be for anyone who's pretty dysfunctional.

Anyway, whether you think this is positive or not, it really a matter of if you take everything she says at face value. If you believe that he's just as bad as she says, without any exaggeration or overlooked positive qualities, it looks like she's just taking care of someone. That's the thing though, exaggerating flaws, talking about someone's negative traits all the time, constantly pushing that they're useless without you, even if you don't have your shit together that would still be abusive.

That said, I don't really dislike or like her for this. Just kinda want to see if this goes somewhere.

 

[Eighty-six]

Alright, what about tsundere's then? Who verbally, AND physically abuse you all the time, yet people still love them.

That's inaccurate. Tsunderes, especially of the rom-com variety, are regularly complained about precisely because they abuse their love interest, and do so either because they're genuinely contemptuous or because they're hiding their affection under such behavior (for whatever reason). However, regardless of whenever they are liked (perhaps because she's not too contemptuous, or her being tsundere is caused by her backstory), narratives with any level of drama prevent a tsundere from maintaining her aloofness-- or even wanting to do so, because she eventually wants to have an intimate relationship with her love interest on account of being attracted to him. She normally has to conquer her self-protective "tsun-tsun" instinct and embrace her "dere-dere" in order to accomplish this. Even in that, you have her occasionally dipping into "dere-dere" either to herself or with the love interest, and that's what normally refreshes viewer intrigue while reaffirming the promise of a happy end.

This heroine is a character that's much more static with a very unclear path towards achieving the aforementioned tenderness because she already accomplished gaining an intimate relationship with her love(?) interest, yet she's so firmly and seamlessly verbally abusive-- which means the guy accepted her dogging him like she does. There's a good chance that there's nothing below her words and that she really is saying what she feels.

So, that's that-- there are people that like yanderes because they're hungry for any kind of affection that they'd theoretically gloss over being a tool in fulfilling someone's self centered obsession, and there are people that like tsunderes because "first they're sour, then they're sweet".

 

[2hu_ism]

People really can't understand the plot if you're wishing BF to "drop this bitch and get better gf"


The boyfriend is simply failure who can' t do anything , He can't get up to first date in time even she give him a note, alarm, text the day before(Ch.2-3).

you can say she's enjoy "watching" him than loving him but she go straight to his house and take care of him when he's sick to the point that she got it from him but my guy still thinking of "If I don't take care of myself then she might come over again" (if we're going with the premire where gf knows bf very well)


Like some people say in older chapter, this one is like OG nagatoro. She liked him and vise versa but it's just fetish thing.

 

[TwisterJR]

there’s a lid for every pot i guess

 

[Njin]

People having no probs with yandere but this is too much? Ppl lost the plot.

Yanderes are a lot rarer IRL then toxic relationships.

 

[gearoi92]

Yanderes are a lot rarer IRL then toxic relationships.

Did you take rhetoric classes to miss the point this beautifully?

 

[NOYBB]

Alright, what about tsundere's then? Who verbally, AND physically abuse you all the time, yet people still love them.

yep! that's the trash type of tsundere, idk why people like that, maybe they're masochists who like being abused and shit....

 

[SpudWumper]

i really love her

 

[bigboichin]

Dance rush stardom in the background

 

[darkeden112]

Carrot and stick treatment huh. More like carrot and a fucking sledgehammer. Still, I'd love to switch places with him. I mean, he can't be as bad as me. At the very least I'd like a girlfriend that will verbally and emotionally abuse me for free while living this pathetic existe-

 

[JAGXJ220]

I’m kinda hoping for a part where he’s flirting with some other girl making her jealous

lol this idiot doesn't have it in him.

 

[demonemperor55]

This girl is really making me act unwise fr.

 

[Hardkorr]

Lotta essays on this manga, but my take is that this gf is pretty fucking great. By comparison let’s see how she matches up to other abusive relationship key pieces and their consequences.

Two types of abusive manipulation is when a gf would gaslight you (e.g. you never do anything nice for me) or tear down someone using their secret insecurities (e.g. No one would ever love you because you do this and that). The goal and consequences is to tear down a break a guy from a stable or good place and make them subservient & dependent on her.

By comparison, this manga’s gf is taking in a guy at his absolute lowest and spergiest point in his life and basically fetishizes it. But how she handles it is by making him self-aware of how shit he is and manipulating him into either accepting it or shaming him into betterment. The result is either a happy end with her fetishized loser bf who accepts himself or a girl who is helping a guy get his shit together.

 

[IzzuD0]

Sarcasm of The Highest Order !

 

[spawnknight]

I wonder if You Outta Pocket is taking a break right now? If he is, think someone would do the other three pages of this arcade date?

 

[Ren4president]

People keep misunderstanding her for being abusive, but she is nothing like actual abusers that exist irl.

The gf of this manga is totally non-demanding, will always smile at you, likes you for who you are, while also being able to criticize you for your flaws. She is a fantasy character, not even remotely close to anything realistic.

Not a shred of realism lol🤦🏿 also it really doesn’t help that everything she says about pov-kun is true and bruh so far ain’t even tryin to change like that

 

[Juggernautbob]

I think this story is meant to bring extreme dissatisfaction to the readers and give a reality check to the people who see this kind of girls in media and say "I wish I could be in his place😍". It is definitely one of those "Not all romance are good, not all relationships are equal".

If you are getting frustrated from reading this, it's a good sign and it shows you're normal.

If you are getting used to the girl and her abusive words and kind of like it, yeah, you should seek out some help.

No, YOU should stop shaming people for their personal preferences, if I want a cute girlfriend that calls me out when I act like an idiot, then who are you to judge me or them?