@pajamawolfie Depends on the person's personality and how they were raised, I think, as well as how they are wired mentally. There are many people, men and women, who have very strong libidos and see the opposite sex as a way to relieve that tension. Then there's those who have a weak libido who, while still possibly interested in sex, find emotional and physical affection more valuable over sexual pleasure. Those are just two example of the extremes and there are many who have it reversed(for example, someone with a strong libido who values affection more), but the point is that everyone has their own preferences regardless of what one's sex is or who their preferred sexual partner may be. With that said, I don't think it's inherently wrong to want to just have sex nor to lust after someone, but the problem lies with many people not treating their partners as actual people and respecting their boundaries, and that problem often lies with the way their raised rather than how they are mentally wired. Also, whether or not someone is going for loving affection rather than lustful pleasure can very well depend on where they are in life and how they are feeling. Sometimes the loving embrace of a woman(or a man) can feel far more better then the sexual pleasure simply because the man(or woman) receiving the hug is emotionally low due to their work or living situation.
I don't think my explanation is the most accurate and it's mostly just conjecture, but what I'm basically saying is that some people want to fuck and some people just want hugs and head pats, and that goes for both men and women.