Yeah, you go girl. Abuse fucking sucks and indeed, you can really never truly forgive it.
This is one of the most realistic perspective on this matter I have seen. I suspect the author or someone he knows has gone through this.
You don't really get the circumstances and perspective of someone that has gone through abuse unless you have experienced it yourself.
Emphasise and imagine to some level? Sure, but you will fundamentally subconsciously try to create some compromise ground between the parties (or go to either extremes). But it isn't such a simple thing, it is a complex web of emotions, raw feelings, ingrained habits, thought processes and so on.