Jesus CHRIST the alpha beta thing is based on a discredited study of wolves in captivity, the behavior seen was actually the wolves acting around their parents
It's clear she's been getting along by acting passively to please whoever is in control of her in that particular time, whether it be boyfriends, teachers, or parents. She's not a golem, she's just learned that saying okay is an easy way to avoid trouble when dealing with people who have very strong opinions about what they want you to do. It's a cute romance because he's very earnestly asking her things that she's not used to answering, and so she's disarmed.