Pretty sure everyone saying Trans is literally joking (me included)
Don't be so serious, nobody is taking your femboy away
Sorry. I'm just kinda touchy about all this since it can often feel like an attack even when those posts are made as a joke. Poe's law and all. I'm very satisfied being a man and being able to crossdress so it can feel hurtful when people imply characters I relate to are actually secretly something
I'm not. My own projection is probably unhealthy.
the "it's actually more transgressive to be a crossdresser than it is to be trans" thing is a non argument lol. "why can't you just be a feminine man" is what society shouts at every single trans woman when she tries to express herself. lots of closeted trans people put up walls like Subaru did, because they yearn to take a safe half step towards femininity, and then after a while they grow past those walls and find that the crossdresser box which was comfortable before no longer fits. speaking from my own experience as a trans woman, even if it was not the intention of the author, they have written the character in a very "eggy" way and I'm allowed to have my own feelings on that without being called a r*tard, thank you.
I completely understand what you're saying and I'm sorry if I hurt you because of what I was saying, because I wasn't trying to imply that at all. I think part of the problem is that both of our groups can often be reduced to the same thing and that ends up muddying the waters when discussing it. To wit - trans women will often be reduced to "crossdressers" by people who hate them, there are a number of crossdressers who end up being trans, and I've seen it happen the other way around, too. Crossdressers get referred to with the t-word cuz people don't like the idea of AMAB people expressing themselves femininely at all.
I wish it didn't have to be like this. I wish we could all just get along, but it feels like every time there's characters in a series like this, arguing about them being trans or not feels inevitable since at the end of the day all we both want is representation. I don't want to try and stop you from having that, but every time you gain one from a series like this I lose one. And that hurts.
It really shouldn't have to be this way, but as long as we exist in the same spaces reading the same stories differently it probably will be.