This sorta thing happens unprompted with many femboys/crossdressing characters so I say this a lot, meaning you probably would agree with me alot.
You’re wrong a lot, too, though.
Either way, you seem to get needlessly stressed out by it.
I think groaning at whichever it is and moving on with your life would be good, for not just other people, but yourself as well.
If I bump into it, I sigh and move on with my life. I can tell the difference, as I know one of them first hand. The more easily defined one. Being trans is fairly uniform in experience on a few levels. “I am this way as a fundamental part of my self and need to live that way” being the easily identified one.
If you see mislabelling etc, say “I think this translation is trying to make a femboy look trans. Here are a couple examples.” in comments calmly, once, then try to forget it. If I see either, that’s what I try to do.
I do read various things about gender presentation these past couple years (in various ways.). as most trans stories are “yeah, I know” for me, and yuri can be tediously trope-heavy, I end up reading them rarely.
Nice to read something I don’t directly relate to. Learn things, etc. I try to stick to the raws or at least start there
fukaboku is a bit heavy-handed in it’s “educational” tone but gives a fairly accurate (the author tried VERY HARD to get things accurate. Research research ask questions of everyone yadda yadda) It’s more accurate than interesting imo, but it’s decent. Glad it exists, but it’s very… tumblr.
Anyway, it gives examples of everything and shows some superficial (as in mainly what an observer sees than all but two characters feel) but significant differences between things.
Just reread it (I’m sure you read it, as it’s really popular), note things, and if you get it, cool, if you don’t, meh. Mei isn’t a very deep character, unfortunately, but she’s not the only one tbh…
You are also prone to harassment of others and blatant transphobia. I think you should stop doing that, and examine why you feel so strongly about it. You should stop doing it, regardless. It doesn’t do anything positive or productive in the world.
I used to do the same about another subject, but discovered I was wrong, and being an ass regardless.
I stopped, and avoid the subject as I get stressed and confused as it has nothing to do with me, but is perceived by others as such. I just say “yeah, I don’t have anything to do with that, and don’t want to talk about it.”
I decided to stop trying to fight you and/or get you to get yourself re-banned again. I have a feeling you may have done that elsewhere already, unfortunately.
Meeting hostility with hostility when it’s just about ideas isn’t good for anyone. You’re not on tv or a lawmaker, so there’s no need to even speak poorly of you to others, either, aside recommending ignoring you if you’re hostile towards them.
Just be kinder to yourself and others. Avoid things that upset you instead of trying to combat strangers over things of relatively little importance. it’s manga. Most of the time unofficial translations thereof.
This one had a bad official translation (considering a couple later chapters alone, characterising him as trans is super offensive to both femboys and trans women), but it was fixed, eventually, baruch Hashem. I’m pretty sure calm emails (or whatever) were more successful in getting that changed than rage did.
I have decided to not be angry with you. It doesn’t do either of us any good. I recommend you do the same for all people and subjects until you can calmly re-evaluate the things that anger you.
Even then, if a person angers you, ignore/block/avoid them. It’s not worth the stress.
Know who I get angry at? Nazis, most politicians and other people actively harmful. Even then I avoid knowing what they are doing, and simply try to be good for the world in my small way. I’m an old housewife. I vote, and… that’s about all I can do.
Sometimes I fail, and get all hot-headed. Bad upbringing I’m trying to not perpetuate. Doing better all the time. Holy crap my 20s… I was just terrible sometimes. Alcohol didn’t help.
Relax. Don’t talk to people you don’t like. It’s unhealthy. I deleted social media because it was stressing me out so much I had physical health problems develop.
many people can’t do that without giving up contact with friends and family, but if something is not needed, I recommend dropping it. It’s trash designed to make you angry for engagement. Discord, email, et al exist. I miss IRC being common, because I’m old.
Have a calm day. I recommend taking a couple days off from the internet. Hit the library or physical manga on the shelf (If you aren’t all-digital. I’m mostly digital. Couldn’t keep some of it on the shelf because I have a kid, now. Just go airplane mode or whatever, then)
edits are for typos and grammatical errors, adding like two or threee sentences for clarity.
