So much of this, yes.
That 13-year age gap is difficult to overcome, even if there's legally no issue. Even going with the unofficial half plus seven, Izumi's bottom number of the socially acceptable (according to the US) range would be 26 years. Reina is well below that.
So, I agree there are several factors that really don't have to do with him being 37 specifically:
- The age gap is too large (this would apply at other ages, too, not just 37)
- He's trying to honor and repay her father by showing her the same support (this has also been mentioned in past chapters, too)
- He doesn't want to violate her trust because she doesn't know he's her employee, in fact the further along we go the more guilt and stress he feels about this
As someone well past 37 and married, nothing's withered away. However, my interests aren't often aligned with someone in their twenties. So, I'm just not that keen, even if they're pleasing to the eye. Emotionally, I'm in a different space and need a partner that can actually understand me (like my wife).
As for these characters and story, I'm a bit torn and would be OK between them winding up together or with other characters entirely. There's that young guy that'd love to be her punching bag.
Edited to finish my sentence about the partner being able to understand me.
You're right about his motivations, but I think you're also missing out on a couple things. For one: the reason you can't look at someone in their twenties and see a companion isn't because you're older, but because you're older
and married. You're in a different place in life. It's not just a misalignment of interests, you're in a straight up different place than they are. Which makes them feel distant.
Here, that's not the case. Ishizumi lives in an apartment by himself and there's no indication of prior romance. More specifically, they're
both trying to live up to the expectations her father left them with. Reina is trying to run his company, but Ishizumi is trying to live up to the mission her dad gave him: be the kind of person who listens to those who need to be heard. They're both feeling the loss of the same person and trying to honor them in their own way.
Personally, what impresses me the
most about this story is how clearly its shown that they are practically made for each other without ever going over the top. Like, to the point where you can miss it even though it's been there since the beginning.
It's slightly more obvious for her, but still easy to miss: she doesn't want someone to take her frustrations out on, or to vent to. She wants someone who can look past her station and her demeanor and see the
pressure and
fear she feels. Someone to notice, and to allow her to feel those things fully, without her feeling guilty or worried about how they'll be taken. That's why Ishizumi's confession here is so devastatingly romantic: he let her know that he respects her, and that he is
honored that she trusts him with the things she says. He realized it two chapters back! He's
proud that she trusts him. He doesn't want to be beaten up or vented at, he wants to be there for her, to listen to her, to feel trusted with her vulnerability.
Which is what she wants more than anything else.
For Ishizumi, it's less directly stated, but still clear: he has problems with self-value. He doesn't see himself as all that important, useful, or valuable. His strengths: observation, listening, attentiveness, support, compassion, patience... those things are easily overlooked. He's not driven or charismatic or ambitious or... you know, all those. But Reina's dad valued them, and because he did, Ishizumi started to realize that the things he disregards and are overlooked might have value. Reina is doing the
same thing, just romantically. She sees the good things about him, the things he overlooks; and values them. She sees value in himself that he doesn't see, and is determined to hold on to him because of it.
Which, another thing,
this guy's fuckin' manga has an emotionally intelligent and supportive male lead that makes the ambitious and driven female lead feel safe and understood. He doesn't take care of things for her when she's drunk, the boss/subordinate dynamic doesn't FLIP, it just becomes honest. He doesn't want to lead and protect her, he wants to support and encourage her. He wants to
listen and care. Ishizumi isn't possessive, he isn't dominant, he didn't save her from pick up artists to make her go nuts for him. The male and female coded roles are flipped; effortlessly, so casually that nobody's screamed that the comic is woke, because she's still a shortstack so the people who scream about wokeness can still beat off so they don't care.
Could he have done this shit
the whole time? The guy who's 1 page twitter porn advertisements became running gags had
this shit just in him this whole time? It's downright shocking