lmfao nail on the head my friend.I think the kind of person who obsesses over not being their wife's first partner is probably on the low end of that scale.
I can't help but think that if he loves her so much, all his blunders and constantly stuffing his mouth with his own foot are just plot devices.
So why did he exactly want to go back again? His marriage seemed perfect despite her having a hard life before they got married. Seems like instead of trying to fix her past, just looking towards the future would be a better option.