Big agree!! I tend to be a little bummed out at yuri/yaoi when there are no fleshed out not-awful opposite gender characters. It comes off too cynical even for my tragedy-loving heart!
The BL in particular because it always comes across as the men being babies. Like, the hetero-patriarchy is why you deal with oppression...not women lol. I'm not saying men can't be bullied by women for being gay, but BL stories always have these rich, powerful and conventionally attractive men who literally face zero threat from a woman's "judgement" and still go out of their way to caricaturize them as jealous homophobes
Like they truly aren't the same, it's more than reasonable for a queer woman to have a poor worldview on men, especially lesbians who often see the worst parts of society being at the intersection of misogyny and homophobia.
I agree with you for the most part I just definitely feel that the cynicism from a sapphic perspective is often very relatable, especially in comparison to Generic Hot CEO Man #342 whose powerless, arranged marriage fiance is still somehow a major villainous force 😭 If I had ten yuan for every time I saw that let me tell you 😂