Ah, a sad mediocre life. It does sucks when your busy life is the the reason your family is comfortable and has food on the table then they goes and abandon you and question you about your absent in the family. I get the frustrated of choosing side as both have reason and point but the receiver should atleast understand how selfish and un-understanding they sound.
Be clearer, if you want to spent time together agree that they are okay with more cut back on the work part even if there are consequences to it or don't complain.
Lol, going into it I didn't expect to rant this much.