if anything, the FL's past behaviour towards her son is a product of societal expectations on women to bear children at a young age. she was not ready for it and her postnatal depression made it worse. unfortunately, it led to parental neglect and childhood trauma. the FL, as a parent is accountable to an extent and is not innocent in this but i still think it's really sad for both the FL and her son. i'm glad this is a story because i'd say this is a common experience among families