@BCS https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/14993089/ 52% of women that admitted to sexual intercourse had an intact hymen. To be fair, the ages were only 13-19 so theres a chance of the hymen still breaking after thier first time (and i doubt theyve had much sex). As for how often it breaks without sex you can look in the same study to find that its actually rare: only
3% had a torn hymen without intercourse. If im being completely honest Im too lazy to look for studies dictating the likelihood of tearing your hymen with other activities. But by all means you can look for it
Tl;dr theres about a fifty fifty chance of tearing your hymen during your first time (ages 13-19) and the chances of tearing your hymen without intercourse are extremely rare.
If you care, my opinion on the matter has changed since i expected much higher numbers for broken hymen without secks. My point still stands however, that loosing your virginity isnt
always going to pop your cherry.
A couple more things: im basing all of this on a
single study and it was done in 2004 so the numbers may have shifted (so you should take this with a grain of salt) . Also, please dont associate me with feminists, radical feminists are not cash money