@CountryMage ,
I get your comparison that she's like an annoying friend but that's not exactly the case here given the context, and could very well hurting you (even if not physically) through social influence and authority.
It's more like, she being a superior in your company who noticed you, a newcomer full of potential and impressive knowledge, then proceeded to :
[ul]- stalk you and involve herself when you're working (even if it's your freelance/side jobs outside of the company),
- attempted to take credits for your researches and works (despite you repeatedly rejected her directly and indirectly),
- used her authority power to escalate dramas between you and your co-workers (even if you managed to calm it down),
- pressured, manipulated and blackmailed you through her authority and social power along with another superior who actually doesn't have direct control in your department to make you act in their favor (instead of them taking proper procedures to actually investigate the matter and take actions accordingly with HR, even though technically by IRL laws the contract would have no binding power because it's accepted not in its original T&C by the company already in the first place, even by magically the contract could not bind him too)[/ul]
After all of those disloyal and disrespectful actions that shouldn't be taken against a supposedly-friend, she's just not a trustable and reliable person at this point to believe her that she wouldn't do anything more until she gets what she wants at this point of the story. Given her social status and reputation as a renowned archmage, she could even just frame you for whatever thing for her own benefits and the general public would believe her instead of Astley with an unknown identity and background, how would anyone feel if they are put in the same situation as Astley? Or anyone having a situation with their problematic superiors who exploit shady obscure company rules IRL?
About your point that she *hasn't* gotten any valuable info from Astley, it's already disrespectful enough to him that for she to repeatedly bait and pressure him to spill it despite his direct and indirect refusals. If she's really trying to be a friend, she would know when to stop and where the line is and respect him and their 'friendship'. At the current point in the story, even if Astley has been patient with her, she's already pushing it, which is why I mentioned that some readers have been lenient to her. At this point where Irene hasn't redeemed herself, I honestly don't see why it's okay for anyone to justify her actions that put someone under harassments and manipulations if they don't already know about her redemption arc later.
The following comment of mine could be offensive for some people but it's an opportunity for introspection and self-reflection.
Are people, who defend for her but still don't know about her redemption stories, the kind of people who are used to toxic and manipulative people around them and feel like as long as it's tolerable and not 'gone too far yet' then it's excusable? Or are they the kind that has done things similarly to Irene or toxic people and feel it's fine as long as it's not pushed too far simply because 'we are friends and we should just accept our flaws and not be criticized at all'. I think the people who are in such a situation to think about it for themselves, why is it okay for anyone to treat their supposedly-friend and not get called out for their disrespectful attitude, behavior and actions if they truly want to build a friendship? Sure, maybe some people who are under a toxic relationship don't retaliate, but that doesn't mean they don't mind it though, especially if they are trying to not involve other people (eg: Rina in context) in the drama, but does that make it okay?