Pseudo introspection. Some people actually are selfless, and even if it isn't altruistic (a term I use loathingly), to seemingly think that makes the action invalid, selfish or wrong is childishly nihilistic and disgusting.
Putting that aside, and though, that's generally the case, this one is an obvious exception. This dude is still totally creepy, pushy, annoying, clingy and boardering on genuinely autistic stalker ground. This guy does not act his age, and the idea that any grown woman except the most exceedingly damaged, especially one older than him, would be attracted to him is concerning and ridiculous.