Harapeko Oyako to Motokare Yanushi - Ch. 8

[the_Bear_from_Bearcave]

I mean it's pretty normal to not reconnect with an ex lover after 17 years who also has kids. Single mothers do statistically get approached way less than just single women by men because men just naturally don't want to take responsibility for another man's child especially childless men, I'm sure it's easier for single fathers. Society hasn't degrated because this was never seen as normal. It's up to the individual if they can get over the hurdle of the instincts of not wanting to deal with a child that isn't your own product, this also doesn't mention the child too who also has to make an effort to connect with the new father figure which also statistically is a way lower chance than a biological child.

But even then the guy being interested in reconnecting not asking question about the kid just makes him look like a complete loser. I'm pretty sure most step-fathers want to be aware of the history of their step child because it makes it easier to connect with them.

Read that post carefully, it implies guy should marry not the ex lover single mother, but her daughter (especially the "tells her daughter and him wake up you two" part). With single mother maybe joining in on the fun (oyakodon references). In this case it doesn't matter who was the father .

 

[Coldest1231312]

Read that post carefully, it implies guy should marry not the ex lover single mother, but her daughter (especially the "tells her daughter and him wake up you two" part). With single mother maybe joining in on the fun (oyakodon references). In this case it doesn't matter who was the father .

good that you got it right! I wrote it so obviously and thought that everyone would get it by the way do you also think that she is the ideal wife for him?

 

[the_Bear_from_Bearcave]

good that you got it right! I wrote it so obviously and thought that everyone would get it by the way do you also think that she is the ideal wife for him?

She's a bit of annoying tsundere, but also still a kid, so unironically he would have to wait for her to grow up to se how she turns out.

 

[jojoka]

Read that post carefully, it implies guy should marry not the ex lover single mother, but her daughter (especially the "tells her daughter and him wake up you two" part). With single mother maybe joining in on the fun (oyakodon references). In this case it doesn't matter who was the father .

 

[Coldest1231312]

She's a bit of annoying tsundere, but also still a kid, so unironically he would have to wait for her to grow up to se how she turns out.

I think unironically that she is the best wife for him and there is no need to wait long he can marry her in high school

I'm so glad you liked it

thank you

 

[wallsg]

You can't be "friends" with someone who you've last seen in high school 17 years ago.

...

University, at 18 or 19 base on that they couldn't drink.

 

[wallsg]

Who knows, maybe perhaps he actually owns the house and just pay for utilities only.

I think that's likely seeing as he has lived there since at least when they were dating, 17 years ago, based on his thoughts that she probably knows her way around the place already.

 

[Nivek]

have you read usagi masterpiece?

which one?

 

[Coldest1231312]

which one?

usagi drop

 

[Saybah]

Good to know she also pay for stuff

 

[sotokouya]

i actually enjoyed this just fine and never have something against manga with similar "controversial" topic (to mangadex comment section anyway) but while i think that the mother being unhelpful klutz and the daughter getting angry at every other thing might be endearing at first but now it becomes slightly annoying honestly

 

[coyote_vdb]

Thanks for the translation.

 

[yhmirr]

oh, we can see the motive behind MC letting them stay in the house

 

[kamilion]

Spoiler

We've already gotten hints dropped at the motive. His portrait of her will end up at the exhibition, she'll see it and we'll see the resonance cascade failure as the airhead melts down in public, likely in front of the daughter.

 

[Hardik_7547]

Thanks a lot for the translations.

 

[Hardik_7547]

honestly i don't really care that much if minori is even his or not, just tell us already! Bio-dad or not, this can still be a good family manga

According to the description they broke up 17 years ago and in chapter 3 they mentioned that the daughter is only 14, so I think she is not his.

https://mangadex.org/chapter/e33b03b5-4a8a-477b-baf8-1d0959ba7cb4/9

 

[Kageryushin]

Am I missing something for why there's so much hate against this manga?

Chick is an idiot. She shows up at her childhood boyfriends house 17 years later outta nowhere with a child and selfishly asks to stay. She is very flawed.

Dude is lonely and was, even in the back of his mind, still in love with her. He selfishly agreed. He is also flawed.

Guess what? We're all flawed. Situations not too far off from these happen to human couples all the time. Heck, much worse things happen all the time. I can't even begin to recount people I've met or talked to who have been remarried several times or sometes even after decades.

This manga depicts, despite some typical manga tropes, a thing that could reasonably happen in society, then it puts a bit of a cozy spin on it. Why is this so divisive?

It's simple. A ton of men are sick of being used and taken for granted by entitled women. This story is ultimately a woman's fantasy about using a man and taking his kindness and support for granted and it being cast in an acceptable light. If you look past the bright coat of paint, it's the story of a woman being allowed to do something unforgivably hurtful, and the man she hurt still loves her and picks up the pieces for her anyway after 17 years of being apart. It is viscerally disgusting to see this sort of unhealthy premise presented as "cozy" when in reality it's nightmarish.

Sure, this is a story that could reasonably happen in reality... but in reality, she's a parasite, and he's pathetic for clinging on to her memory and taking her back in when, from all indications, she abandoned him. She went off and gave the greatest singular gift she could give to another man by bearing his child. Meanwhile, rather than moving on, this schmuck carried his feelings for her for 17 years, to the extent that the instant she showed back up at his doorstep needing his help after vanishing from his life, he immediately provided her and her bratty bastard child a home with no expectations. Not even an explanation. There's no accountability for what she did whatsoever. This idiot is the perfect wish-fulfillment to a woman trying to escape from the consequences of her selfish, stupid, heartless actions and the harm they've caused.

And none of this is truly acknowledged by the story. All of the dilemmas implied by the premise are essentially ignored and put off, disconnected from the emotional throughway of the narrative. How convenient for all of this to be swept under the rug.

The idea far too closely mirrors scenarios where women leave good men they're in stable relationships with for some shitty tenuous reason like they're "bored," or they think they've missed out on something, or they've found another man they think they'll get a better deal with, only to come crawling back begging to be given another chance in the end when their selfish, stupid, heartless decisions blow up in their faces and they realize the grass was greenest on the side they left behind. It doesn't matter if the premise is explained away as something entirely different and justified down the line, because at that point you can be sure it's going to be some contrived nonsense.

 

[Dark1400]

It's simple. A ton of men are sick of being used and taken for granted by entitled women. This story is ultimately a woman's fantasy about using a man and taking his kindness and support for granted and it being cast in an acceptable light. If you look past the bright coat of paint, it's the story of a woman being allowed to do something unforgivably hurtful, and the man she hurt still loves her and picks up the pieces for her anyway after 17 years of being apart. It is viscerally disgusting to see this sort of unhealthy premise presented as "cozy" when in reality it's nightmarish.

Sure, this is a story that could reasonably happen in reality... but in reality, she's a parasite, and he's pathetic for clinging on to her memory and taking her back in when, from all indications, she abandoned him. She went off and gave the greatest singular gift she could give to another man by bearing his child. Meanwhile, rather than moving on, this schmuck carried his feelings for her for 17 years, to the extent that the instant she showed back up at his doorstep needing his help after vanishing from his life, he immediately provided her and her bratty bastard child a home with no expectations. Not even an explanation. There's no accountability for what she did whatsoever. This idiot is the perfect wish-fulfillment to a woman trying to escape from the consequences of her selfish, stupid, heartless actions and the harm they've caused.

And none of this is truly acknowledged by the story. All of the dilemmas implied by the premise are essentially ignored and put off, disconnected from the emotional throughway of the narrative. How convenient for all of this to be swept under the rug.

The idea far too closely mirrors scenarios where women leave good men they're in stable relationships with for some shitty tenuous reason like they're "bored," or they think they've missed out on something, or they've found another man they think they'll get a better deal with, only to come crawling back begging to be given another chance in the end when their selfish, stupid, heartless decisions blow up in their faces and they realize the grass was greenest on the side they left behind. It doesn't matter if the premise is explained away as something entirely different and justified down the line, because at that point you can be sure it's going to be some contrived nonsense.

Maybe people should stop filling the blanks of the story with the worst case scenario just to hate, "from all indications, she abandoned him." There is no info on how, why or who break up with who, yet people assume that she ghosted him or something like that, we don't even have confirmation if the kid is really her daughter at this point, this is a slice of life, not a drama, so the whole thing will be coated in a bright coat of paint because that is the point, is light a story, is not that deep.

 

[cingterbang]

I honestly don’t know how to feel after reading all 8 chapter, a mix of frustration amid the otherwise cozy manga atmosphere? Something about it just doesn’t sit right with me, like im having a Domestic Girlfriend déjà vu. Guess I’ll wait for more updates.