Houkago no Idol ni wa Himitsu ga aru - Ch. 40 - Kuromiya-san and responsibility

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man really be like "hmm yes not being compared just means im even more worthless"

thanks for the chapter!!!
He has that much PTSD from the shitty parenting he's been subjected to all this time that even something neutral is just another assault. Dude can't even start on the whole self-esteem thing (which he sorely needs) until he can clear the instinctive shell-shock response from his system.

Or someone can just forcibly bypass all that by marching in and straightforwardly dragging him out of all that bullcrap with an honest declaration of emotion, intent and resolve. Tiptoeing and nudging sure won't cut it.
 
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He has that much PTSD from the shitty parenting he's been subjected to all this time that even something neutral is just another assault. Dude can't even start on the whole self-esteem thing (which he sorely needs) until he can clear the instinctive shell-shock response from his system.

Or someone can just forcibly bypass all that by marching in and straightforwardly dragging him out of all that bullcrap with an honest declaration of emotion, intent and resolve. Tiptoeing and nudging sure won't cut it.

Not sh*tty parenting. Because that implies that the parent is over all a bad parent. But rather, just too much pressure

This is more sh*tty communication....

But more the fact that he felt the pressure. He probably wasn't doing all that well when his mom was complaining or he was doing worse, so she just got mad.

But he probably took that to mean he wasn't good enough and had to do harder....

Mom's intention was probably only for him to try his best....

But she didn't bring that out well so for him, it was more him thinking he wasn't good enough...

So when he hears that his mom is happy with his score, what he's hearing is that he just isn't worth getting yelled at when she probably was happy that he was doing his best.
 
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Not sh*tty parenting. Because that implies that the parent is over all a bad parent. But rather, just too much pressure

This is more sh*tty communication....

But more the fact that he felt the pressure. He probably wasn't doing all that well when his mom was complaining or he was doing worse, so she just got mad.

But he probably took that to mean he wasn't good enough and had to do harder....

Mom's intention was probably only for him to try his best....

But she didn't bring that out well so for him, it was more him thinking he wasn't good enough...

So when he hears that his mom is happy with his score, what he's hearing is that he just isn't worth getting yelled at when she probably was happy that he was doing his best.
What? This is atrocious parenting!
Killing off your kids' confidence hobbles their entire adult life, since it makes it harder to find work and stay in it, establish relationships, deal with adversity, exercise self care...
Even if Japanese businesses prefer employees that work themselves to death, his non existent confidence will hurt him whenever he's looking for work, since HR professionals are mostly idiots and just want to be wooed by used car salesman gab!
 

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