See, I know you're joking a bit here but this is exactly what's going through Tomos mind right now, and it's a shame that this is a common opinion that the man should be the one "carrying" the relationship and being all cool and stuff. Gotta leave that kinda stuff behind and forget about "gender roles". If those traditional roles and values are flipped and that works for a couple, good for them. I just hope that Tomo doesn't ruin himself with this mindset, and that they talk this out soon. His obsession with being "cool" for her is not healthy.