I would agree to a point, but confronting is one of the moves that could "Hit hard if true, but recoils exponentially if misses"I mean obviously the heroine is too in love to ever cheat on him but like wouldn't confronting the situation been better? I don't understand just ignoring the situation.
We as reader knows that's her hairstylist friend but does the husband know.
It doesn't help that cheating, as sad as it sounds, isn't exactly uncommon in Japanese marriages for both men and women, of course, we have to look at the bigger picture of how (According to some polls) almost 50% of marriages in Japan are sexless, or how many get married just to get married, but point is, it happens more than you would image, for someone as insecure as this dude, I get how this would be all over his mind, especially with the cute wife he has.I mean, if he had confronted her, at absolute worse, the wife would interpret that as the husband is not emotionally secure in their marriage and he has no faith in her, thinking she might just go off when ever. This could "technically" cripple their marriage, where the husband thinking of preventing a rift will result in a rift between them happening anyways.
His self-esteem is way too low to confront the situation directly.I mean obviously the heroine is too in love to ever cheat on him but like wouldn't confronting the situation been better? I don't understand just ignoring the situation.
We as reader knows that's her hairstylist friend but does the husband know.
Woah there. Never said you have to be super confrontational especially if your base personality isn't like that. You can be casual about it, call or text beforehand saying you see her, surprise her, there are so many ways to go about this than being direct. It's confronting the situation and gauging her reaction to the surprise is what I'm really focusing on.I would agree to a point, but confronting is one of the moves that could "Hit hard if true, but recoils exponentially if misses"
I mean, if he had confronted her, at absolute worse, the wife would interpret that as the husband is not emotionally secure in their marriage and he has no faith in her, thinking she might just go off when ever. This could "technically" cripple their marriage, where the husband thinking of preventing a rift will result in a rift between them happening anyways.
Her reaction is key. She could just easily brush it off and console her husband and his well intended attempt to protect their relationship. That is best case scenario for this.
That's kinda the gamble the husband could be playing here. Just my two cents.
I'm aware he hit the 0.01 percent of gacha luck in terms of the girl he married so given his personality she is perfect for a guy like him but this type of anxiety isn't healthy to read.It doesn't help that cheating, as sad as it sounds, isn't exactly uncommon in Japanese marriages for both men and women, of course, we have to look at the bigger picture of how like almost 50% of marriages in Japan are sexless, or how many get married just to get married, but point is, it happens more than you would image, for someone as insecure as this dude, I get how this would be all over his mind, especially with the wife he has.
I remember a random Japanese YT video I watched a long time ago, of how some dude had this super sweet relationship with his recent (Ex now) wife acting all lovey-dovey, and how they even had this super grand honeymoon...
Then he found out later that she was cheating all along, even during said honeymoon. (She organized the trip to coincide with her BF's business trip or something), dude finished with "I don't think I'll ever trust any other human being again"
His self-esteem is way too long to confront the situation directly.
Sorry, I was just musing a hypothetical.Woah there. Never said you have to be super confrontational especially if your base personality isn't like that. You can be casual about it, call or text beforehand saying you see her, surprise her, there are so many ways to go about this than being direct. It's confronting the situation and gauging her reaction to the surprise is what I'm really focusing on.
Honestly if she would just explain she sleeps in another room because she's afraid she would get too horny if they slept in the same bed, how they first met, etc etc he'd be a lot more confident in their relationship.Have a little faith Husband-san. Your wife loves you very much.
I mean, it seems like it's pretty cultural for a lot of Japanese people to put on an act and hide their true opinions and emotions, and there's also that thing where Japanese women pretend to act cute and raise the pitch of their voice even if that's not really their personality, and I can imagine there are a lot of men who have deluded themselves into thinking that's what women are actually like, and if that's the case I bet it's really easy to think someone's acting "lovey dovey" when they're actually just manipulating you for whatever reason.It doesn't help that cheating, as sad as it sounds, isn't exactly uncommon in Japanese marriages for both men and women, of course, we have to look at the bigger picture of how (According to some polls) almost 50% of marriages in Japan are sexless, or how many get married just to get married, but point is, it happens more than you would image, for someone as insecure as this dude, I get how this would be all over his mind, especially with the cute wife he has.
I remember a random Japanese YT video I watched a long time ago, of how some dude had this super sweet relationship with his recent (Ex now) wife acting all lovey-dovey, and how they even had this super grand honeymoon...
Then he found out later that she was cheating all along, even during said honeymoon. (She organized the trip to coincide with her BF's business trip or something), dude finished with "I don't think I'll ever trust any other human being again"
His self-esteem is way too low to confront the situation directly.