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@unknownfactor "Creepiness" is a subjective feeling and one that should never be used as an argument against romantical relationships if we wish to learn anything from the past (homosexual oppression and so on). Also just because someone is way younger than me doesn't mean that he/she could potentially be my child, I'm not genghis khan, I didn't have sex with every woman on the planet. Also I do not agree that an age gap is bound to a large difference in maturity. Maturity isn't directly related to one's age but rather the knowledge and experience went through. Which is why we can observe massive differences of maturity among people of the same age. Also just because someone has more life experience than you do doesn't mean that he/she is taking advantage of you, people with good intentions do exist, weither they are the majority or not, I don't know since I don't have any good statistics to say that.
I have a few things to say regarding your example: First, is that you have depicted one specific case when I asked you to show "Why would you necessarily be taking advantage of their naiveness if you date someone outside of your age bracket?" Here is another case of age gap relationship: A young man (man and not kid, unless you are a super genius, you aren't graduating from high school as a kid) with his HS diploma who is really into that older woman who has 10 more years than him, he makes multiple advances and after rejecting him a bunch of times, the woman decide to give it a chance and they become a happy couple afterwards. Hard to say that the woman is taking advantage of the younger man since she rejected him initially, right? Of course i'm not saying that every age gap relationship is like that but I'm showing that an older party isn't always going to take advantage of the younger one in a romantical relationship.
The second thing is that you are still using the "he was a child when the otherone was in highschool" when it's pretty much irrelevant since they are now both adults.
"but in most cases it's just a bad idea" How do you know that? I'm not saying that you are lying but I'm rather skeptical especially on the internet. If you have any source to confirm what you are saying then post it.
"Not to mention the problems that will occur later in life when the older person in the relationship starts suffering the problems that come with old age long before the other person (and likely dies long before the other, leaving them alone)." I do agree that it's a big issue of such relationships but it's something everyone is aware of and it should be up to the individuals concerned to appreciate that information and to decide weither or not they still want to pursue their romance. After all, some people still want to own pets despite their really low life expectancy. the point here of course isn't that people are as emotionally invested in their pet as they are in their husband/wife but rather that they are fine with bonding with people/animals even if they will leave them behind in few decades.
"A teacher dating a kid? No. That's never alright." I dunno about "never alright" but I do think that it should be forbidden because of how much kids trust their teachers. And anyway if they are serious about each other they can wait a few years until the kid graduate/becomes adult.
"it's a work of fiction so who cares?" Exactly, no actual people are suffering in fiction. Hence why we are free to depict torture, human traficking, murder and genocide. All way worse then an adult dating a kid.
"It's ironic I see someone here mentioning Nazis, cause ya know, that's exactly what happened when people just ignored things that were morally wrong." This is completely unrelated, the nazi ideology didn't originate from a work of fiction and it wasn't popularized through them. It was due to the german national socialist party riding on the german resentment after the great war and the misery caused by the great depression. Fiction is fiction and a fiction's writer shouldn't be held accountable for what his readers thinks or do, they are adults who are responsible of themselves and if they are kids then they have a guardian whose duty is to set them on the right path.
I have a few things to say regarding your example: First, is that you have depicted one specific case when I asked you to show "Why would you necessarily be taking advantage of their naiveness if you date someone outside of your age bracket?" Here is another case of age gap relationship: A young man (man and not kid, unless you are a super genius, you aren't graduating from high school as a kid) with his HS diploma who is really into that older woman who has 10 more years than him, he makes multiple advances and after rejecting him a bunch of times, the woman decide to give it a chance and they become a happy couple afterwards. Hard to say that the woman is taking advantage of the younger man since she rejected him initially, right? Of course i'm not saying that every age gap relationship is like that but I'm showing that an older party isn't always going to take advantage of the younger one in a romantical relationship.
The second thing is that you are still using the "he was a child when the otherone was in highschool" when it's pretty much irrelevant since they are now both adults.
"but in most cases it's just a bad idea" How do you know that? I'm not saying that you are lying but I'm rather skeptical especially on the internet. If you have any source to confirm what you are saying then post it.
"Not to mention the problems that will occur later in life when the older person in the relationship starts suffering the problems that come with old age long before the other person (and likely dies long before the other, leaving them alone)." I do agree that it's a big issue of such relationships but it's something everyone is aware of and it should be up to the individuals concerned to appreciate that information and to decide weither or not they still want to pursue their romance. After all, some people still want to own pets despite their really low life expectancy. the point here of course isn't that people are as emotionally invested in their pet as they are in their husband/wife but rather that they are fine with bonding with people/animals even if they will leave them behind in few decades.
"A teacher dating a kid? No. That's never alright." I dunno about "never alright" but I do think that it should be forbidden because of how much kids trust their teachers. And anyway if they are serious about each other they can wait a few years until the kid graduate/becomes adult.
"it's a work of fiction so who cares?" Exactly, no actual people are suffering in fiction. Hence why we are free to depict torture, human traficking, murder and genocide. All way worse then an adult dating a kid.
"It's ironic I see someone here mentioning Nazis, cause ya know, that's exactly what happened when people just ignored things that were morally wrong." This is completely unrelated, the nazi ideology didn't originate from a work of fiction and it wasn't popularized through them. It was due to the german national socialist party riding on the german resentment after the great war and the misery caused by the great depression. Fiction is fiction and a fiction's writer shouldn't be held accountable for what his readers thinks or do, they are adults who are responsible of themselves and if they are kids then they have a guardian whose duty is to set them on the right path.
