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This may be a bit reductionist but basically;
Cheating is wrong
And there are reasons for cheating.
The presence of a reason doesn't justify the action (I can see why many people come to that conclusion because when people are making this point, the action is normally followed with "but" which leans into, ever so slightly, justification). I argue that this is more of a habit and limitation of speech rather than a reflection of one's true stance on it (for the most part).
I never condone cheating but I also know the absurdity of our world where leaving the partner is otherwise impossible or just incredibly costly (not meaning you lose whatever privileges' you gained from the union but rather you are condemned to a position you were never in to begin with). An example of what I am referring to are countries that basically don't allow divorce or countries that penalize the individual to the nth degree (in the realms of incredible high fees and maybe even jail time maybe even death...and this is simply divorcing your significant other with no wrong actions being committed meaning no Infidelity, no abuse, no theft. You are just don't want to be with them anymore.)
Of course, that above is the exception not the rule so when people use that as an example to justify their cheating, when it doesn't pertain to them at all, that's a good indication of their stance on cheating and that's when the Red flags come out.
Cheating is wrong
And there are reasons for cheating.
The presence of a reason doesn't justify the action (I can see why many people come to that conclusion because when people are making this point, the action is normally followed with "but" which leans into, ever so slightly, justification). I argue that this is more of a habit and limitation of speech rather than a reflection of one's true stance on it (for the most part).
I never condone cheating but I also know the absurdity of our world where leaving the partner is otherwise impossible or just incredibly costly (not meaning you lose whatever privileges' you gained from the union but rather you are condemned to a position you were never in to begin with). An example of what I am referring to are countries that basically don't allow divorce or countries that penalize the individual to the nth degree (in the realms of incredible high fees and maybe even jail time maybe even death...and this is simply divorcing your significant other with no wrong actions being committed meaning no Infidelity, no abuse, no theft. You are just don't want to be with them anymore.)
Of course, that above is the exception not the rule so when people use that as an example to justify their cheating, when it doesn't pertain to them at all, that's a good indication of their stance on cheating and that's when the Red flags come out.
