Should I show my 13 year old nephew this site?
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I think it's okay. If he has a magic rectangle and an internet connection porn is a search and a click away anyway. He'd have to work a bit harder to find hentai on this site, and the hentai that he did find would either be softcore or hardcore heavily interspersed with an actual story and plot. He could just as easily find porn in a comic, or a book, or a video, many of which might look innocent if he knows how to obscure his tracks, or non-existent if he knows how to cover them completely. All things considered, I don't think it makes a difference. But don't expect him to stick to Shounen. He's 13 and craves edge like nothing else.
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That's true, he does usually enjoy the more violent and gory types of stories. Is that a teenage boy thing? Like it gives some kind of testosterone rush?
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When i was 13, i used to watch Madness Combat and other violent animations and started developing some dark humour, so it is a possibilty.
When i was 13, i used to watch Madness Combat and other violent animations and started developing some dark humour, so it is a possibilty.
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@Greenfrost. Just my 2 cents. I'm the youngest of three. Both my sister and brother have kids at varying ages who spend most of the day at our house (ages are 3, 4, 6, 16 and 19) since my mom is a stay at home and can care for the kids.
I've also helped raise all of them and a bunch of other kids cause my mom's whole side hustle was taking care of the neighborhood kids.
I would say yes. Be actively involved in the interest of your nephew. If you approach them as a confidant you'll have a much better time about not only monitoring but also educating. There's a reason we have the term "cool uncle" and while it's a varying spectrum if you show interest in their interests they are more likely to approach you in confidence and trust. Although it is a fine balance and you have to be aware of the weight your relationship with them then carries.
Otherwise you can always ignore it and have someone else introduce him and by the time you come around there will be a myriad of things you don't know and he won't be willing to share. Unfortunately this balancing act is difficult and at the end of the day it is up to you to decide how involved you'll be with him. Of course your sister is the parent but you have the unique position of being influential in a non-commital way that a parent doesn't have, the metaphorical carrot to the stick (the stick being his parents)
I've also helped raise all of them and a bunch of other kids cause my mom's whole side hustle was taking care of the neighborhood kids.
I would say yes. Be actively involved in the interest of your nephew. If you approach them as a confidant you'll have a much better time about not only monitoring but also educating. There's a reason we have the term "cool uncle" and while it's a varying spectrum if you show interest in their interests they are more likely to approach you in confidence and trust. Although it is a fine balance and you have to be aware of the weight your relationship with them then carries.
Otherwise you can always ignore it and have someone else introduce him and by the time you come around there will be a myriad of things you don't know and he won't be willing to share. Unfortunately this balancing act is difficult and at the end of the day it is up to you to decide how involved you'll be with him. Of course your sister is the parent but you have the unique position of being influential in a non-commital way that a parent doesn't have, the metaphorical carrot to the stick (the stick being his parents)
if he has free access to the internet he will find porn and gory stuffs regardless of mangadex or not.
when I was that age the first thing my parents did was buy me a playboy and begin explaining how the real world is.
good parenting is what matters.
when I was that age the first thing my parents did was buy me a playboy and begin explaining how the real world is.
good parenting is what matters.
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It's better than having him start looking for porn from ads
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There's no porn. Only malware.
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dont you know about Coldsteel the Hedgeheg? yeah middle-schoolers drawn into edgy stuff is perfectly normal.
it just a phase.
dont you know about Coldsteel the Hedgeheg? yeah middle-schoolers drawn into edgy stuff is perfectly normal.
it just a phase.
Realistically speaking, if he wants to find H then he'll find it whether it's on this site or not.
Compared to aggregate reader sites filled with ads and malware mangadex is much safer. Ironically, the same could be said about the possibility of him finding H here (better than a site filled with malware-filled popups)
As for the whole "official" vs "fan-translated" (read as illegal) aspect of series, it should be fine so long as you can teach him to support if the option is there. The thing about manga is that compared to anime, maybe only 1 in 10 get official translation (heck, that ratio is being generous) There are tons of less famous series that are good but will probably never get localized, so if he's really into anime/manga he will miss out.
Personally I stuck with scanlations throughout my student life for that very reason (though I buy digital copies for series available in English now that I'm earning my own money)
Some scan groups in this site even provide means of supporting the authors that have no localized series.
Compared to aggregate reader sites filled with ads and malware mangadex is much safer. Ironically, the same could be said about the possibility of him finding H here (better than a site filled with malware-filled popups)
As for the whole "official" vs "fan-translated" (read as illegal) aspect of series, it should be fine so long as you can teach him to support if the option is there. The thing about manga is that compared to anime, maybe only 1 in 10 get official translation (heck, that ratio is being generous) There are tons of less famous series that are good but will probably never get localized, so if he's really into anime/manga he will miss out.
Personally I stuck with scanlations throughout my student life for that very reason (though I buy digital copies for series available in English now that I'm earning my own money)
Some scan groups in this site even provide means of supporting the authors that have no localized series.
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@Greenfrost I'd suggest you show him the site, if only to prevent him from finding malware on other sites and potentially corrupting his phone. You can also help him make an account and explain the filters (and talk them through with him, explain the purposes). He can choose whether to block or not block certain types of them, but more than likely if you bring it up yourself, it'll be addressed and he won't be interested. If he is, he can do it, but that way he knows what he's getting into. The filters on this site and its tags are probably one of the most important parts, as other sites tend to not have them, (as they aren't user-updatable).
I would maybe mention to him that some of the people on the site may be rather unsavory, depending on where he looks, but also remind him that there's the report function, and that he's welcome to use it. Making sure he knows that they're there to look out for, but also to make it clear that it's not something to be emulated would be the best option, I think.
Parents/caretakers who try to keep their child "free" from everything tend to make it so that when they inevitably encounter it (the caretakers won't be there 100% of the time in their life, irl or online) they won't know how to deal with it. Talking openly about it can help him know that he (1) won't be punished for bringing it up, (2) can talk to you about it—esp if there were parts that disturbed him, or even just things he's interested in, (3) can use things to make his user experience better/filter some things.
Don't track him or his use of this site, as that just leads to kids becoming more sneaky, and often times reading that kind of stuff for the sake of "rebellion," if unconscious. Instead, leave him to his own devices but recommend ways to make it more palatable, such as suggestion filtering out the Sexual Assault / Smut tags / whatever other tags he may just not be interested in.
I wouldn't be surprised if he's already consumed some of this kinds of media, but at least this way he can… well, what I said above. And I think it'll help your guys' relationship, too, by fostering openness. Don't police what he reads, as that'll just lead to being more sneaky, just give him an avenue for support.
(Edit: To correct a previous commenter, aggregators are generally more harmful, as there aren't warnings, no way to filter things out, and many of them focus solely on hentai/gorey content. They also don't tend to report users who may talk harmfully, and even like… the spoilers on other sites is just a pain. The Mods here, whatever people think of them personally, are certainly adept at responding to reports and are clearly doing their best to make it a safe(r) place, whereas there are generally no consequences for racial slurs, etc. on other sites.)
I would maybe mention to him that some of the people on the site may be rather unsavory, depending on where he looks, but also remind him that there's the report function, and that he's welcome to use it. Making sure he knows that they're there to look out for, but also to make it clear that it's not something to be emulated would be the best option, I think.
Parents/caretakers who try to keep their child "free" from everything tend to make it so that when they inevitably encounter it (the caretakers won't be there 100% of the time in their life, irl or online) they won't know how to deal with it. Talking openly about it can help him know that he (1) won't be punished for bringing it up, (2) can talk to you about it—esp if there were parts that disturbed him, or even just things he's interested in, (3) can use things to make his user experience better/filter some things.
Don't track him or his use of this site, as that just leads to kids becoming more sneaky, and often times reading that kind of stuff for the sake of "rebellion," if unconscious. Instead, leave him to his own devices but recommend ways to make it more palatable, such as suggestion filtering out the Sexual Assault / Smut tags / whatever other tags he may just not be interested in.
I wouldn't be surprised if he's already consumed some of this kinds of media, but at least this way he can… well, what I said above. And I think it'll help your guys' relationship, too, by fostering openness. Don't police what he reads, as that'll just lead to being more sneaky, just give him an avenue for support.
(Edit: To correct a previous commenter, aggregators are generally more harmful, as there aren't warnings, no way to filter things out, and many of them focus solely on hentai/gorey content. They also don't tend to report users who may talk harmfully, and even like… the spoilers on other sites is just a pain. The Mods here, whatever people think of them personally, are certainly adept at responding to reports and are clearly doing their best to make it a safe(r) place, whereas there are generally no consequences for racial slurs, etc. on other sites.)
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I remember this question. The kid's gonna be 17 in a day, and I actually showed him this site a couple years ago. My older nephew who's 22, got a bit into anime as well somewhat recently.
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