Happiness feels the way a good burger tastes. Juicy, succulent, ever fleeting...
As in life, there are times when you settle for a McDouble when you can buy your own meats and cook it yourself. While its easier and probably cheaper to go McDonald's, you will get what you pay for (Might find a hair in it or crusty old mayo) and the end result could leave you bitter and still hungry for the joy you so desperately crave.
Striving for the perfect burger on your own can be inconvenient, yes you could over/undercook it, yes the coals and flames could hurt you, yes the neighborhood drunk could come along and snag a patty, but if you desire that happiness you will take the risk, pick up the godd@mn spatula and get to flipping. That's what life is all about.
That hissing sound as the fatty juices drip from the grate *ahhhhh*
I don't usually feel happiness but when I do it's due or to intense excitement when reading a comic or intense eustress when exercising. It feels good.
Happiness is a lie propagated by social butterflies so they can feel superior to those without people skills.
Like pretty much everybody said, just do whatever you feel like and, in the process, you shall find happiness.
I mean, most of time we are forced to do things we don't wanna do, either to survive (bad work to pay the bills, school/college to achieve qualification for work) or to mingle with people (watching the TV show everybody likes or dressing up according to current fashion). Doin' whatever we like almost always makes people see us as weird, but this is probably the only form of happiness where we don't depend of others to achieve.
@SteamBaron I have to disagree. Doing whatever you like, independent of others, by doing things we hate for most of our time in order to survive: that's unhappiness.
To be happy is to do the things you enjoy in order to survive, in other words: your dream job. Your dream job allows you to do many things: enough spare time for miscellaneous hobbies, feel joy in earning money, avoid being overfilled by stress, etc. And if you have stray from the path towards your dream job, you are already unhappy.
Happiness is not something you do for a few hours to forget about your stress, that is temporary satisfaction, and the worst kind of temporary satisfaction is procrastination which gives you the least joy/time and even more guilt/time as you realize what things you could be doing that are a better use of your time but you keep on saying "five more minutes" and then it's already midnight.
Doing what you think you enjoy may just be procrastination in disguise, that's literally why a lot of people are trying to quit social media. I, myself, always keep track of time when browsing Reddit because social media mental flow is a real thing that is essentially a self-feeding of procrastination that will continue endlessly until you stop it yourself or something worst forces you to stop it. Being bored is your body's respond to procrastination and you must do everything within your willpower to avoid getting bored as it is essentially just a waste of your time; you only have so much time on this Earth.
To find a way to avoid being bored that includes your dream job which earns enough money and spares enough time for you to not only survive but also enjoy hobbies, that's happiness.
Step 1: Decide your dream job Step 2: Decide your hobbies Step 3: Work towards your dream job Step 4: Happiness
You can switch steps accordingly but step 4 is immovable.
Once you decide your hobbies, learn to maximize their efficiency, as well as your schedule in general, in order to spend less time on your hobby while maintaining to output the same amount of quantity and quality, and in the best case scenario: increase them. This will, in turn, spare even more time for your hobbies.
As an example,
I download/put the videos in my subscription before watching them so that I won't waste time procrastinating in the home feed. I also watch things that I find watchable in x1.25 to x2 speed at those speeds so I spend less time watching.
This, in turn, gives my enough time to listen to all the new music in my subscription which I put in a playlist to listen while I study or do hobbies. This is because I am capable of keeping the flow of my focus even better then I can follow the rhythm of the music. I put all genres, from electronic, dubstep, rock, lofi, etc, into a playlist on order to avoid feeling tired of the genres.
When I get bored of old songs, I have a system in place to move them into a different playlist I'm not actively into or delete them; since I feel satisfied after organizing them, I don't consider this a chore but rather an extension of this hobby itself.
Procrastination ≠ Hobby
Things to avoid: -Boredom
-A job that spares too little time, offers too little money, boring
Not sure where all this comes from but it just suddenly clicks in my head the moment I feel that your reply is a terrible advice.
Happiness to me feels kind of like a calm feeling, when I know I'm content and feeling safe. Like when I'm curled up in my boyfriend's arms and just napping with him for example.
"They say that a fool can never be cured to his death. But I like to take a slightly more optimistic view of this. Something more like “A fool will be cured by the time he’s dead.”
While we call them all fools (or its synonyms), there actually exist many different kinds of fool. The fool I speak of here is the fool who creates his own hell. What is characteristic of this fool, first of all, is that he is strongly convinced he can never be happy. Made more severe, this conviction can be expanded to become “I shouldn’t be happy,” and ultimately arrive at “I don’t want to be happy,” a most destructive misunderstanding.
Once that point is reached, there’s nothing left to fear. These fools become intensely familiar with dissatisfaction, and no matter how blessed their environment, they find some loophole to avoid happiness. As this is all done subconsciously, they believe this world to be hell - when in actuality, they are just making it hell themselves with every step they take.
I myself am one of those hell-creators, which is why I believe so, but such fools cannot be cured quickly. To someone who has made being unhappy part of their identity, not being unhappy is losing oneself. The self-pity they used to endure unhappiness eventually becomes their only enjoyment, and they actively seek out displeasure for that purpose."
- Sugaru Miaki
