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> "And even when the god damn TUTOR brings it up saying that he is failing to tutor the girls because he also has to play the role of the father... the father still is too busy to come home and be a parent."
You get it. See, that's the part that will always keep me from saying the father is anywhere near the word 'good'.
The first component of being a good parents is being there. It's understandable if you are a single parent and you need to get a babysitter or put your children in daycare if you need to earn money to have the essentials for your family. What isn't okay is being as much as a ghost or a voice through a telephone to your children. Lots of people have cited throwing money at your children as the root of many problems and they couldn't be more right.
The Quint Girls are partially in the situation they are in because their father seems to be able to get them transferred and create solutions to their academic problems that most other kids would never have the option to execute. He brings that up super casually in the very conversation that has spawned all of this debate and back and forth. It's one of the first thing the father considers when his girls run into a roadblock: bailing them out.
Of course a parent is going to want to bail out their children if they can, protect them, save them, whatever they can do. That's reasonable, that's understandable. But, at a certain point not allowing your children to learn from their failures and mistakes is doing them much more harm than it is good.
Uesugi has said it best many times:
"I think more than a tutor right now the girls need their father."
"This is a time where a father should step up and help his children."
"Every failure is a stepping stone towards success."
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In short, Uesugi has been a blindingly positive light in the girls' lives. Whether he realizes it or not he IS acting as somewhat of a father figure to them. He took on a very high paying job but that job was very demanding and unusual in many non-professional ways. Things were unprofessional working both ways but I think that's to be expected of tutors and students who are classmates and the same age. That can be overlooked. What can't be overlooked is that the father actually expected him to get real results when the girls needed something more than a tutor alongside their academic coaching / tutoring: a parent... or at the very least a goddamn counselor.