@Arkal97
ok let me start with the others on why i dont hate them as much as you-chan.
niinas wife honestly didnt know that what she was doing was hurting niina, she only saw the parts where niina was supporting her wholeheartedly she didnt realize he was just adjusting for her. this is bad since theyre in a relationship and is supposed to be helping each other out but its not all her fault. Niina was scared of speaking out despite feeling lonely. his wife is important for him enough to just suck it up for 5 years but he just couldnt take it anymore. the only time he got the guts to speak out is when everything is too late. he didnt care anymore. hes not even scared of leaving her. he really in all sense of the word, dont care anymore.
in contrary, michi was open about whats bothering her, (which i personally think is better than what niina did), she tried communicating with her husband but what did youchan do? he felt like she was just nagging making her feel like speaking up about what she is feeling is the worst thing to do..
niina's wife. when she realized what niina was feeling(because he finally said something about it) tried almost immediately to do something about it. although its now late since niina is thinking about other things now, she wanted to fix things.
miichi. openly said what she needed. was ignored. tried to fix things. tried to adjust for you-chan. still ignored. she then finally learned to shut up instead of talking about her feelings because you-chan doesnt like "walking on eggshells".
you-chan. wanted to be understood like every person in the world but you cant just ask that while also not trying to understand another. i kinda like how he said he wanted it just the two of them and being at home. but if its always gonna be like that maybe they shouldnt have married. its like monika staying together with richard in friends. she will never be happy. and then he doesnt even see her own wife as a woman anymore that he can get it up for someone else and not for her.
---unlike niina's wife, when miichan said whats bothering her, instead of understanding her and communicating, he made her feel like she was a pain.
niina. what can i say. he is scared af. but i can imagine. i have been in a position where i care so much i couldnt speak out because im scared of being left behind. and when will we, scaredy cats, ever speak out? when we dont care even if they leave. nuff said.
im not hating on him just because of the cheating part. each couples circumstances also gives me a lot of things to think about. and this is just my opinion based on what i read and what i can remember on the story. Happy New Year~
PS. around 5 years of emotional neglect? give miichi and niina a medal for still trying to fix things despite that.
PPS. youchan only felt there was a problem recently(he did not feel lonely for 5 years(?) like michi) and he already felt like cheating(even with alcohol its not justified)
ok let me start with the others on why i dont hate them as much as you-chan.
niinas wife honestly didnt know that what she was doing was hurting niina, she only saw the parts where niina was supporting her wholeheartedly she didnt realize he was just adjusting for her. this is bad since theyre in a relationship and is supposed to be helping each other out but its not all her fault. Niina was scared of speaking out despite feeling lonely. his wife is important for him enough to just suck it up for 5 years but he just couldnt take it anymore. the only time he got the guts to speak out is when everything is too late. he didnt care anymore. hes not even scared of leaving her. he really in all sense of the word, dont care anymore.
in contrary, michi was open about whats bothering her, (which i personally think is better than what niina did), she tried communicating with her husband but what did youchan do? he felt like she was just nagging making her feel like speaking up about what she is feeling is the worst thing to do..
niina's wife. when she realized what niina was feeling(because he finally said something about it) tried almost immediately to do something about it. although its now late since niina is thinking about other things now, she wanted to fix things.
miichi. openly said what she needed. was ignored. tried to fix things. tried to adjust for you-chan. still ignored. she then finally learned to shut up instead of talking about her feelings because you-chan doesnt like "walking on eggshells".
you-chan. wanted to be understood like every person in the world but you cant just ask that while also not trying to understand another. i kinda like how he said he wanted it just the two of them and being at home. but if its always gonna be like that maybe they shouldnt have married. its like monika staying together with richard in friends. she will never be happy. and then he doesnt even see her own wife as a woman anymore that he can get it up for someone else and not for her.
---unlike niina's wife, when miichan said whats bothering her, instead of understanding her and communicating, he made her feel like she was a pain.
niina. what can i say. he is scared af. but i can imagine. i have been in a position where i care so much i couldnt speak out because im scared of being left behind. and when will we, scaredy cats, ever speak out? when we dont care even if they leave. nuff said.
im not hating on him just because of the cheating part. each couples circumstances also gives me a lot of things to think about. and this is just my opinion based on what i read and what i can remember on the story. Happy New Year~
PS. around 5 years of emotional neglect? give miichi and niina a medal for still trying to fix things despite that.
PPS. youchan only felt there was a problem recently(he did not feel lonely for 5 years(?) like michi) and he already felt like cheating(even with alcohol its not justified)
