nah, u cant eat bouquetI would agree that it would be a bit much if it's a date with an acquaintance, it's like bringing bouquet to a first date.
But they're childhood friends so it doesn't apply here. Homemade food is all good for the "first" date of this would be couple.
Thank god you said it! They must have logged thousands of hours or free time together at this point, if he didn't know specifically it was a date then why would he think any different. You could even do the old "I made too much lunch so I made a 2nd one" to pass off the bento too!Why did they called him Dense, he didn't know it's a date, did her friends want him to read her mind?
Depends on the setting. A date at a park? Not a bad idea to turn it into a little picnic or the like. If the amusement park has leisure spots or the like, bringing lunch would be a damn thoughtful move. Many ways for it to go well, but personally only a few for it to go really badly, with most of the potential issues being outside the idea of food per se (like only bringing food for the date and not eating themselves while just watching, which is a thing that has happened).Not gonna lie. If I knew the girl for a while and on the first date she brought homemade food for me? Yeah, count me in. I love cooking for others, but likewise I really value if someone genuinely cooked something for me
Edit: Although if this was the first time I was meeting that person, I might be a little distrustful and wary
There might be cultural differences, but food is thoughtful, but not committal or too forward, like a sweater or some overly grand declaration of love from the onset. If it's just normal ass food appropriate setting, instead of [insert your culture's idea of an aphrodisiac here] or other questionable move, it's a nice moment that comes and passes by, not heavy at all by itself.Nah, the friends are alright.
Childhood friends don't always imply closeness.
Cooking lunch for your "friend" when you don't usually do it and you're just going to "hang out" is weird.
Homemade lunch has too much emotional weight into it - in Japanese, it's omoi - this is what they mean by it's like knitting a sweater. If the guy was any other normal sane guy, they would be put off by it.
Of course, the friends probably didn't really know how close the two were, but their advice works in general.
Well, if you consider that it being homemade, and something prepared specifically for that time, it is too committal. If you buy it from a store, it'll be like you're formally visiting someone's home - bringing omiyage... or snacks if you're cheap/casual about it. The only normal food you can get on a date with someone you're not close with is something you buy during the time.There might be cultural differences, but food is thoughtful, but not committal or too forward, like a sweater or some overly grand declaration of love from the onset. If it's just normal ass food appropriate setting, instead of [insert your culture's idea of an aphrodisiac here] or other questionable move, it's a nice moment that comes and passes by, not heavy at all by itself.
Aside from the idea of homemade cooking being very committal (it's a literal everyday thing, not some rite, even if mango sometimes makes it to be such), very fair points.Well, if you consider that it being homemade, and something prepared specifically for that time, it is too committal. If you buy it from a store, it'll be like you're formally visiting someone's home - bringing omiyage... or snacks if you're cheap/casual about it. The only normal food you can get on a date with someone you're not close with is something you buy during the time.
If you think about it pragmatically, you probably don't know the other person's dietary restrictions. The other person might just choose to receive your food out of consideration for your thoughtfulness, risking their own health. If you absolutely must bring food, discuss it in advance - no surprises.
Well, it's possibly hours of work early in the morning, especially for a bento. The everyday way is to use leftovers and just stuff things in without care for how it looks, or heat up the frozen meal you prepared a few days ago, but you probably wouldn't want to do that. The other person is your date you want to impress/not disappoint; they're not your kid you're sending to school.Aside from the idea of homemade cooking being very committal (it's a literal everyday thing, not some rite, even if mango sometimes makes it to be such), very fair points.
It's true what they say - woman's worst enemy is other women.