@xyzzy "Its only gay if it feels gay"
I can go on a long lecture about this, but it boils down to this, people are attracted to masculinity and femininity first and foremost, genitalia is the last thing we usually find out about someone.
and that's where it comes down, if you are attracted to femininity, the only thing that rules a trap out is if you want to have kids.
there was an image of buck angel and bailey jay, stick it to buck or get stuck by bailey. one is a clearly gay encounter and one is a cleary straight one if you go by genitals alone, but one of them would feel a whole lot more gay then the other.