You can't really decide something "isn't offensive" if numerous members of a group are telling you that it offends their shared sensibilities. That's not even a debate of values, that's just literally the definition of "offensive". All something needs to be offensive is to, well, offend.
What you really mean is you don't care about the feelings of the group claiming offense. Or that you don't think they have (or deserve to have) enough cultural cache to be allowed to put forward their concerns or interests in the public square. Whether that's true or not, it's not going to stop us from trying. Which is why this discussion is going to happen each and every time a scanlator puts out a chapter that using that word.
That may be frustrating to you, but so long as none of us are breaking the forum's rules there's not much you can stop us from going "OW!" every time the LGBT community's toes are stepped on (if just to inform the scanlation group, who may not have even known). And no amount of attempted gaslighting about how they're not actually being stepped on is going to convince us to stop. We very much are going to have to get used to each other's presence, yes.