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You just want to see the world burn, do you.i hope she's really after his brother and is just playing the long game
You just want to see the world burn, do you.i hope she's really after his brother and is just playing the long game
Old readers might be fed up. But new readers are not. Got to give them a few years.So fucking basic. Aren't you guy fed up with this sort of soulless slop already?
Excuse me... Have you ever met Japan???Why would anyone want to read a story about a guy getting trauma from girls preferring his brother instead of him, only to fall for a girl who wants his brother and end up being her rebound when she realizes she can't have him?
Idk about you, but that's kinda lame.
Repeated disappointment is not trauma... Let me guess Gen Z???Obviously the setup is that this girl is going to end up being different. The problem is that every girl who’s approached him for years have all used him. Why would he suddenly trust this girl?
A condition like his that causes him to completely distrust all women can absolutely be characterized as trauma. Why not? Trauma is a general term that can be applied to a lot of conditions of different severities. I don’t see why people are trying to treat it like it should be reserved for SA victims or something.
If what happened to this kid happened to a real person they’d need therapy, not a pep-talk.Repeated disappointment is not trauma... Let me guess Gen Z???
No, I'm just an adult in the real world, and this is real life. We all have disappointments and failures. And yes, repeated failures can shape your personality and attitude, but this is not trauma. No one has died or been maimed. The MC has not had anything taken away from him. He has not loved and lost, he has just suffered repeated disappointment and regret, just like most people.If what happened to this kid happened to a real person they’d need therapy, not a pep-talk.
Disappointment would be the odd case where a girl asks him to introduce his brother to her on their first meeting. The MC though had girls spend enough time with him for him to think that they were genuinely close before using that connection to try and trade up to his brother and leave him in the dust.
It’s messed up, calculated, and it’s happened enough that he’s seen it as a pattern that has had no exceptions. That pattern has led to a fundamental mistrust of girls his age. Pair that with a clear inferiority complex towards his brother, and the fact seems his troubles are not on the radar of his family, and yeah you get a recipe for legit trauma. I’m not saying that he can’t get over it with time, effort, and ideally some support.
I don’t get why you want to minimize it so much, unless maybe you like using people and don’t want to be burdened by guilt about it?
I think that you’re forgetting that he’s still a child. He also didn’t “fail”. He had his trust betrayed repeatedly by girls who had planned to use him from the beginning. If someone used you like that would you just think “oh, that was disappointing“?No, I'm just an adult in the real world, and this is real life. We all have disappointments and failures. And yes, repeated failures can shape your personality and attitude, but this is not trauma. No one has died or been maimed. The MC has not had anything taken away from him. He has not loved and lost, he has just suffered repeated disappointment and regret, just like most people.
I don't think pathologizing common teen insecurities is a good idea honestly. Then you'd stick 90 percent of all kids with a mental illness.I think that you’re forgetting that he’s still a child. He also didn’t “fail”. He had his trust betrayed repeatedly by girls who had planned to use him from the beginning. If someone used you like that would you just think “oh, that was disappointing“?
You might be an “adult in the real world”, but you clearly have not got much education when it comes to mental health. Your definition of trauma is just not inclusive enough.
Trauma is a lasting emotional response to a distressing event, often causing harm to a person's sense of safety, self, and ability to regulate emotions and form relationships.
I’m not saying that he should be treated like he’s as troubled as someone who has suffered physical abuse, but trauma is a very broad term and there’s no reason not to use it where it’s applicable.
Kids can be shallow and lack conviction like that.This would be good if it wasn’t so skin deep. He’s got real trauma and distrusts all women, and yet he’s still getting easily flustered all the time? Sorry that just doesn’t add up, it’s contradictory to me.
Nah i understand. probably not really trauma but just something he tells himself so that he can try to distance himself from girls, who bring him negstive feelings fr. he jsut like me ongThis would be good if it wasn’t so skin deep. He’s got real trauma and distrusts all women, and yet he’s still getting easily flustered all the time? Sorry that just doesn’t add up, it’s contradictory to me.
then it would actually make a good storyand then the twist is that she really is just aiming for the brother