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I totally agree with you! I don't think she's a villain, I think she's a teenage girl who doesn't understand trauma. It's true, she didn't do the right thing, but it was shown in the manga why she thought like this. She grew up in an environment where sex is demonized for women, and expected for men which is why she asked if "it was really against his will" and implied that he could have fought back just because he was a guy.Okay, so whenever the situations like this happen people always look for a villain, this is the wrong way to approach these types of discussions. She clearly didn't understand what he was going through and addressed the situation badly, but let's be clear, She clearly felt bad for him, she clearly felt guilty about not understanding and blaming him, and he misinterpreted what she was saying (and she still was and was in the wrong, Im not saying she wasn't) because he was dealing with serious trauma and he thought everything he worried was going to happen just did.
Just as it's wrong to dismiss and understate his experience it's also wrong to exaggerate hers. I've been involved in these types of discussions before and you need to make sure you're not acting like exactly the people you're fighting against.
To be clear again I'm not defending her and she was clearly in the wrong, I hate that I have to be the one to point this out because it feels a bit like victim-blaming but fighting ignorance with hyperbole and villainization only serves to make the discussion harder for everyone.
I know why people hate her, but the manga is making a commentary about how society treats a young man who was sexually assaulted, even when they try to have good intentions.