That's My Atypical Girl - Vol. 4 Ch. 28 - I didn't believe it (Part 2)

[zek777]

@Silfir from a friend's past experience... Therapy and such in Japan is a joke.
Also, for a culture that signifies having different masks to face different people, it is hard for Japanese to speak their mind to a stranger.

 

[OnlyReadsRomance]

That page about going to sleep hit really hard

 

[YUWIN]

Jesus fucking christ, what a fucking travesty, huh? It seems like Yokoi can't really think of anything else other than to be her emotional chain while she's suffering through a shitload of unresolved, repressed trauma. Enduring the pain or lashing out doesn't seem to help either way, so professional help seems like the third option that could yield tangible results.

 

[Iggylevin]

That single page with Yokoi just WOW it shows so much with no words.

 

[Oeconomist]

One child alone cannot successfully overcome a pack of bullies. A parent who advises a child to try that is still worse than one who tells the child to endure it, and parents of both types are abject cowards. It is the rôle of adults to bring bullies under control. And none of these responsibilities is like that of a limited partnership. It is the rôle of adults to punish other adults who fail to meet such responsibilities. The social sanctions for such failure should be breath-takingly harsh.

 

[vannn]

Man this is so well written, every chapter I hope they get better.

It seems like the author isn't endorsing their codependency, in fact this chapter proves that they're going to need a lot more than each other to survive this, I can't think of a reason that doesn't include professional help.

 

[BCS]

At this point I wouldn't be surprised if this ended in double suicide or something

 

[00nowhereman]

this is heart wrenching moment brother

 

[gregger]

Ooooof Thats a lot of damage :c

 

[Abedeus]

@Silfir

Where do you think she got the pills from?

Japanese culture ain't best for mental issues.

 

[mirp448]

O O F

 

[spandxltd]

I like ke the part where she thought she was complimenting Yokoi with her hospital bed analogy , and she's smiling because she thinks that he would see only the compliment that she means to give. She really doesn't understand how to predict other people's emotions, and has no idea why he started crying beyond "I spoke of sad things. "

 

[samazam]

@zek777 unfortunately yeah. Therapy there is less about finding ways to improve the patient's wellbeing, and more about what patient have to do to be accepted into society. Its kinda fucked up.

 

[MonsieurQuack]

There's a lot of people saying she should just go and get professional help, but it just doesn't work that way.

You get the help when you can see that you need it, and that can require a complete change in perspective - either from new experiences or from the thoughts and feelings of those around you. Right now, she's in the best place she can be. She has a loved one looking over her and a safe place that she can call home.

She might come around to needing help, she might not, but she will be supported regardless.

 

[Silfir]

@Abedeus

I couldn't resist the temptation to go full sarcasm. Somehow people keep bringing up "professional help" as though that's a new and revolutionary idea.

It's exactly as you said. She gets prescription medication! She's already received what passes for professional help in her country. She's been through the system. The system failed her - nobody pulled her out of her abusive family home, she had to run away all on her own. None of the help she received prevented her from turning suicidal. How can people in these threads be genuinely surprised that she doesn't trust the system anymore?

Her current situation with Yokoi is precarious as well, I don't think the manga is sugarcoating that. But she no longer gets beaten or locked in a dog cage, so it's unquestionably an upgrade.

 

[zek777]

@samazam yeah... sadly it is a part of their culture IMO.
Hell, homosexual used to be (and still is in some area) considered as a phase. "You can have some fun exploring but do get back to be normal". Funny how I thought Japan tolerates gay at least because in the past, soldiers had male lovers, or at least the high ranking ones did.

 

[Abedeus]

@zek777

Well, that's part of a bigger issue in Japan.

A man is expected to find a wife, have a good career and raise kids.

A woman is expected to find a husband, settle down, having career is not really welcomed and your main purpose is to be a housewife.

Homosexual people have it worse than the average person not because it's looked down upon, but because their sexual orientation goes against that outdated "having a family and kids is more important than happiness" outlook older people try to instill on their kids.

 

[orochijes]

"outdated" lol

 

[Panino]

On one hand, it's good that he now have such a strong incentive to fight his demons and improve his life.
On the other hand...

I couldn't bear it.
Every time she relives a trauma and survive and find him there, she'll cling to him harder, idolize him more, become more emotionally dependent. Having someone to trust is good, but in a situation like that, imagine having someone depending on your existence to have the will to stay alive.

And man...
You know how for a depressed person words of encouragement can have the opposite effect? Because the person encouraging can't imagine how the other person actually feels and reacts emotionally? Is this but absurd levels of intensity. Her mother is just the worst, she cares for her daughter in the worst way possible, she wants her daughter just to be invisible, not cause problems to others, not to protect her and her well-being.

It's just so sad...

 

[Panino]

@MonsieurQuack

There's a lot of people saying she should just go and get professional help, but it just doesn't work that way.

A lot of people that need to re-read this from then start!
I can't believe that they're still saying this.