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I had no idea this had an OST a;sldkfj
You insist Lyon's getting her feelings involved, but really? What about him arresting Baek for treason and threatening his life on multiple occasions - all things Dowun did simply because he got jealous? Who's the one getting his sodden panties in a twist? These actions had nothing to do with Lyon's politics and were driven by purely personal, immature reasons.he NEVER claimed that he’d do anything for FL besides rise her to the top, and that’s exactly what he’s been doing. it’s way too risky to involve feelings in.
he's the one getting upset bc "fiance doesnt liek me back ;(!1!1! guess i'll KILL the bodyguard"she’s the one getting upset bc “hubby doesnt like me back ;(!1!1! guess i’ll have an affair with my bodyguard”
there is absolutely nothing beneficial in a toxic, abusive relationship. Emotional abuse isn't a tool to elevate yourself socioeconomically. You're devolving into gaslighting rhetoric, and it completely sidesteps the fact that Lyon's the one he needs, not the other way around. He hasn't an ounce of royal blood in him, and without her, he wouldn't be anywhere near the palace.don’t act like he’s a toxic abuser when he’s just trying to find the best way to let both her and his clan survive in this screwed up world. if that means using her or others as tools, then that’s that.
Again, there's a difference between manipulating and training. Those aren't remotely equivalent things. One is taking advantage of someone (which Dowun absolutely is by feeling entitled to Lyon's time and space) and the other is a mutually symbiotic exchange of benefits. What has Lyon gotten out of her relationship with him besides an entire childhood of disparagement, gaslighting, and apathy?he’s manipulating her and training her to become someone that won’t drown in political pressure.
Don't fucking do that. Don't use the age-old "but he has shitty parents!!!111!"but it isn’t necessarily abusive in the same standards either. besides, he’s under orders as well. if it were up to his father, the FL would be in an even worse position. he’s trying!!!
OH YEAH? WHO FUCKING ASKED HIM TO IMPRISON PEOPLE JUST BECAUSE MR. SMALL GOT JEALOUSyou can’t call him toxic or abusive when all he’s doing and all he’s ever done was what was asked of him.
I'm not putting myself in an abuser's shoes. We shouldn't waste time making the effort to empathize with toxic men.You gotta put yourself in his shoes.
this argument in essence relies somewhat on the age-old fallacy that women have to be abused to get stronger. That's simply not true. Lyon became stronger not because of but in spite of people who've tried to manipulate her, Dowun absolutely included. Also, that's simply not how abuse works. Abuse in essence belittles, not fortifies the existence of the abused person, and to insist that toxic, possessive behavior served a beneficial purpose in any way 1. excuses abuse and 2. discredits the survivor in their own rise to power.didn't he abuse her to mold her into a person that can defend herself in this type of society.
it doesn't matter whether abuse is goal-oriented or not. it's inexcusable, either way.Dowun at least he has a goal and isn't doing this for fun or because Lyon was enviable or something.