To Your Eternity - Vol. 3 Ch. 20 - The Superficies of Man and Monster

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She's spoiled and that calls for a death flag!! Here you go....
We need to make this girl realise that what she sees in the world isn't everything there is...
 
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I don't see why he can't tell her that he saved her from being killed, he found her dog for her, so I don't know why he feels he shouldn't tell her. I'm sure she'd be more happy to know that she is alive with a scar instead of dead... Can someone explain why he doesn't say anything?
 
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You may call her spoiled. And the fact that she is. But what she is feeling is real.
She may be fortunate to have all of these but she won't be able to appreciate it because her parents didn't give her a chance to.
They prepare everything for her, not being able to explore for herself, pamper her so much that instead of comfort, she finds it annoying. When you raise a child, you should let your child discover things for herself, appreciate comfort by letting her be uncomfortable at times, experience pain and then provide relief, etc, etc.
Some people experience the same things when they are much older but of course, not the same circumstance as when you are just a child.
 
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Suffering can only be scaled by one's personal experiences.
If the worst one has been through is being pushed over then sure, a small scratch can be a grievous wound.
Others will still judge it by their own experiences though... and it will seem like overreacting to someone whose experiences are on a more extreme scale.
Neither is correct or incorrect. Neither is objective.
 
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@Soticoto She's a child, she thinks she's in pain and it's miserable and that's okay,

and I'm sure she feels hurt and anxiety from it and it's something she needs help with and someone to understand her,

but she's still not in real pain and still not miserable, at least not nearly to the boy's extent. And a lot of this girl's troubles are almost fully imagined. As she has lost very little and is only building her expectations on some faint sense of entitlement.

Saying the effects and outcome, even just on their characters and psyche, is the same, is a lie.

Your words are correct but only to an extent. Our imaginations only inflate and deflate pain to an extent, even that varying heavily depending on the trauma and perspective,

And it can go both ways, you can feel hurt and anxiety, to build up on really painful experiences as well. And there you can probably build up on your pain with your despair, much, much more.

Again, not to say anything about the girl, she seems otherwise sweet, just immature and ignorant, which of course, she's a kid, that's not unnatural.

And experiencing pain doesn't negate all pain, it just helps in resisting it, it's still painful I'm sure and still has a bad effect on the psyche, at least as a somewhat dull and somewhat pain and an irritable scar.

Some people do get overbearing about it sure, but it's not totally untrue, it is an overreaction, atleast disregarding mental illness, addiction and also depression to an extent, all of which can properly change the brain's chemistry and are all a different bag of tricks.
 
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@sif99 : Emotional sensations can only be scaled against other sensations in one's own personal experiences. They cannot be scaled against things one has never personally experienced. And I'm not saying the same. I'm saying they're incomparable. Nobody has ever BEEN someone else in order to scale one's experience against the other's.
This tendency people have from an outside perspective to scale the visible physical outcomes of circumstances against each other and then try to map that back to personal psychological impact is unreasonable. It doesn't scale in any way consistently.
 
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@Soticoto (for avoiding misunderstandings I'll say first that I was only talking about the circumstances of the girl and her irritation with it all, rather than the reaction to the scratch she got, cause that is pretty common in children and easily understood )

And to be honest, i've kinda lost the self- righteous zeal to argue back, I understand now that you're basically right in what you're saying,

but to, I guess now, pointlessly try to prove what my point was, I'll go on

you can't really, truly relate to and quantify her pain but it's also objectively, definitely an unreasonable overreaction and born of a twisted perspective,

totally ignorant of her circumstances yeah, but also just misunderstanding the intentions of her own family to justify dwelling on her own, fairly non-existent trouble and restrictions (if just thinking more flexibly than her botched idea of freedom here),

if she even saw a bit of the two misunderstandings and didn't ignore the obvious, even if she couldn't truly relate to or accept it, she'd probably be in less overdone desperation

I mean if you can't even see or acknowledge at all the blessings you are given , then life is basically only ever going to be a tragedy.

Mostly non-existent argument against an immature kid but when someone more mature and older acts similarly, it's pretty reasonable I think.
 
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I don't see why he can't tell her that he saved her from being killed, he found her dog for her, so I don't know why he feels he shouldn't tell her. I'm sure she'd be more happy to know that she is alive with a scar instead of dead... Can someone explain why he doesn't say anything?
her world is too small for her to understand even if he tells her. she's too pampered/sheltered. she can't understand real danger or real injury. etc
 
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Bruh, I don't really like this manga but.... I have nothing else to do so I guess I'll read you.... BAKA!
 
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@azywrckt Oh God thank you, someone gets it. Yes she is spoiled and she was wrong about what happened but she is just a child, there is only so much you can expect from her when she didn't have the chance to experience the world.

And more than anything, she is walking her path pretty well, she has gone out of her way to find a job (with second intention but what heck) and she is trying to accept others with their problems too, this girl is a seed of a good person, but like you said she needs nurturing to grow.

And growth is the entire theme of this series.
 
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I had to read the chapter again and I am glad it's from one of my favorite manga so it wasn't hard to recall.
Thanks for giving the opportunity to read your response in agreement and the othet's comments as well. I am glad that this series is still getting the attention and understanding it deserves.
 
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Interesting. They're opposites of each other. One craves freedom, while the other love and support.
 

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